9-12 Month Baby Sleep Guide

sleep guide for older babiesThis is it parenting peeps, the last few legs of the race. Enjoy these last days of being a parent of a BABY because in mere seconds you will be the proud parent of a TODDLER. Your older baby is no longer a screaming mess of short naps and blowout poops. Your baby is NOW a delightful smiling, laughing, ball of cute baby chub and tickle toes. Seriously, there is nothing better than a 9 month old baby. Absolutely nothing.

Things That Are Normal for 9-12 Month Old Babies

  • Bedtime is pleasant and happening at a reasonably consistent time each day somewhere near(ish) to 7:30 PM.
  • Baby is taking 2 consistent long(ish) naps a day.
  • Baby may still need a 3rd nap although this may vary from day to day. It’s generally short, maybe as little as 10-20 minutes. Also the 3rd nap is unlikely to happen in the crib so you may need a stroller walk/baby wearing/car ride to make it happen.
  • Baby is enjoying solid food and finger foods – YAY!
  • Baby is sleeping ~11 hours a night – YAY!
  • Baby is eating 0-1 times at night.
  • Baby is falling asleep on their own at bedtime and naptime.
  • Baby is sleeping where you would like them to sleep (crib or co-sleeping).
  • Baby is done with most sleep aids (swing, swaddle, pacifier) but is still happy with a dark room, loud white noise, and possibly a lovey.

This may not describe your baby which is OK. Baby sleep is not like a race. What matters is that you DO cross the finish line, not WHEN you cross the finish line.

If your older baby is still up all night, taking short crappy naps, and struggles to go to sleep at bedtime, then start reading here:
How to Get Baby to Sleep Through the Night – Part 1
How to Get Baby to Sleep Through the Night – Part 2
How to Get Baby to Sleep Through the Night – Part 3

If your baby is 9-12 months old and sleep is still a misery (20 minute naps, bedtime battles, baby up all night, unwilling co-sleeping, only sleeps on Mom’s boob, etc.) then it may be time to consider sleep training. If you’re curious and want to learn more you can find everything I’ve written about cry it out here.

Further Reading

Why Bedtime Is Critical and How to Rock It
How and Why to Use and Lose the Paci
Weaning Baby OFF the Swing
When Night Weaning isn’t Working
Bedtime What Time?
Why Your Baby Hates the Crib
Monumental Guide to Vanquishing Short Naps
Are You Keeping Baby Awake Too Long?
Why You Need White Noise
When Babies Drop Naps and What to Do About It
The Secret to the 12 Hour Night
And of course the ever popular – Baby Sleep What is Normal?
{Photo credit: Lisa Stout}



  1. Hello!
    I have a question about third naps. My 9 month old (almost 10 month old) keeps moving his nap further and further. He just fell asleep for his third nap at 5:45. It used to happen at 4:30. His bedtime is 7:30. My question is, should he even be taking a third nap now? He gets fussy if not. Should I move his bedtime up for awhile? He wakes up at 6 AM and naps twice in the morning and afternoon. Thanks!

    • Does he have trouble going to bed at 7:30 when he takes the late nap? If so, I would suggest trying to drop the third nap and move bedtime earlier, maybe to 6 or 6:30. That’s what I imagine Dr. Weissbluth would advise, and his book (Health Sleep Habits, Happy Child) has worked wonders for our whole family’s sleep.

    • I agree with the earlier bedtime! My 10 mo old takes a nap at 930, one around 2, and bedtime at 630. She sleeps til around 3am then takes a bottle and wakes aeound 7. Shes very happy with that amount of sleep 🙂

    • My 9 month is the same. We kept the 3rd nap and bumped his bedtime to 8, which was nice because he slept a little later in the morning (630-7ish)

  2. Hi, this may seem stupid but am really starting to doubt myself! My 9 month old daughter now only has two naps during the day and neither are any longer than 40 mins. I can’t get her to go back to sleep once awake even if she’s yawning her head off! I’ve tried letting her CIO but she’s been known to keep going for 45mins and then vomitting! She used to sleep well at night (going down at 7pm and up at 6am) but for the last week has been waking around 2/3am and screaming. When we go to comfort her, she calms down but as soon as she is put back in her cot the screaming starts. In desperation, the last couple of nights I have put her in our bed and once calmed down she goes to sleep. I’ve then tried to put her back in her cot but the screaming starts again. She keeps pulling herself up to a standing position and screams her head off. Any suggestions?! I’d love for her to nap longer during the day but my main concern is her night waking.

    • I’m having the same problem where my daughter at first slept great until 5 but that has slowly creeped back 30 min at a time until now she wakes up at 3:30 am screaming her head off and I can’t get her to go back to sleep. Don’t know what to do!

      We do our bedtime routine and she goes down to sleep great and sleeps all through the night but just is waking up so early and is still obviously very tired.

      One thing that could be affecting her is that when she first started waking at 5, i got in the habit of bringing her back to bed and nursing her to sleep so we could go get more rest. But now when I go get her she only cries and settles down if I bring her to bed but she still never goes back to sleep. I think she likes coming back to bed enough that she’s waking earlier and earlier to do it.

      Anyone have any ideas of what I can to to transition her back to sleeping longer at night?

      • Hi Nicole,

        I persevered with the Progressive Waiting method with my little ones naps during the day and after three days her naps were closer to an hour, sometimes even two hours long. Once we got that sorted, we tried it with her early waking. It didn’t work. SO, had read about a method called ‘wake to sleep’. This is where you rouse them (not fully wake them) an hour before they’d usually wake. For our little one that meant moving her to a different position in her cot and covering her. She moaned a little and then drifted back to sleep AND slept through till 6 (now 6am we can cope with!!) The theory is that it interrupts their sleep cycle and they start a new sleep cycle again. It was suggested to do this for three days. We did it for two mornings and then tempted fate by not doing it on the third day. Seems she didn’t need it. We now have a little one who naps pretty well and sleeps from 7pm to 6 – 6:30am!! Don’t know if this will help but…

        • Nicole- what’s progressive waiting? My guy (who is one- today!!) goes to sleep like a dream, and sleeps all night- but wakes up around 5:30 (regardless of when he goes to bed- we’ve tried everything from 5:30 to 8, and have settled back to his original bedtime of 6:30). We never go in to his room til 6, but that has made zero difference in when he wakes up. And he’s not a great napper. Usually about an hour total for the day- either two catnaps or 1 hour-ish nap. I’d love for better naps, but most of all I would LOVE for him to sleep til 6 or ideally 6:30. I think I will try this wake-to-sleep!

  3. HI, My baby is about to be 11 months. He is not the best napper – usually 45 min to 1 hour – twice a day. Although fights the 2nd nap like crazy. He used to be great at sleeping through the night, went down awake, sometimes would cry but eventually down after a few min. He recently started waking up at 2am, wide awake and starving. He also went through a bottle strike as well so that could be the reason he is waking up for a bottle in the middle of the night. So I am not really sure what to do, should I let him try to work it out and fall back asleep, should I continue to feed him, even though he hasn’t had any night feedings for the last 4 months. I know developmentally a lot of new things are happening but just wondering how to manage and work through this lovely sleep regression. P.S. We have hit regressions at 4 months, 8 months and now 11 months. We got over the other ones within a few weeks but now that he is so much more aware of what is going on, just looking for some extra tips. Thanks!

  4. Dear Alexis,

    Good afternoon. Ever since my son was born I have been reading your blog. He started out very fussy and was challenging to get on a schedule. We did this sleep lady shuffle method around 4 months old and after that he had great naps and slept pretty well at night- although he always woke for at least one feeding. He was a child who put himself to sleep and things were pretty easy for a while.

    About a month ago things hit the fan. He is all over the place in terms of sleep. Last night, for instance, he cried for two hours- he was inconsolable. Today, he went down well for his first nap, now for his second he is throwing a huge fit.

    He is almost 10 months old and has recently been able to stand up in his crib. Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated. My husband and I are at our wits end. We feel like if we let him cry it out at night he will literally cry for hours and hours.

    Thank you so much,


  5. My daughter is 10 months old and she pretty much wakes up twice a night for a bottle.She goes to bed around 7:30-8pm and she gets a 6 once rice bottle also every night, can someone please tell why she doing this.

  6. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. My 9month old only sometimes takes long naps during the day. She is in a daycare so I really have no control about her daytime sleeping. Our bedtime routine has been the same since she was 4 months old. Bath/snuggles/bottle then bed. She hasn’t woke up for a night feeding since around 4 months as well. But now for the last month or so she has been waking up in the middle of the nighy ready to play. No amount of rocking or soothing does any good anyway. She just wants to play. If she is up playing I can’t sleep and it is really starting to affect my work. I am open for just about any suggestions at this point!

  7. I’m sure this has been asked and answered somewhere else, but what do you do when your 9-month-old still can’t sleep overnight and the cry it out method didn’t work?? Tried it for 3 weeks with my daughter, she screams for 2-3 hours then falls asleep for 10-15 minutes, then screams for another 2-3 hours, then 15 minutes of sleep, repeat all night. Shouldn’t it have worked, or at least helped, by now?? She has no health issues or food allergies, she’s well established on solids and is generally a happy kid. She just doesn’t sleep at night, even before we tried the crying method she was up 3-5 Times a night for no explainable reason. Since she was born we’ve been able to lay her down when she’s awake and she falls asleep on her own, but then she’s awake a lot all night. She sleeps well during her naps. Am I missing something here??

  8. This has been a lifesaver, we did sleep training with our 9 month old and now she is on a daily schedule. Before she was waking every 30 minutes all night long, would only sleep if held, and didn’t want naps. We never thought we could have easy naps and her sleeping 11 hours a night!! We are all so much happier and healthier. She is doing all of the healthy habits you listed here, so for anyone who feels hopeless, stick with it! Your whole family will benefit greatly. .

  9. Oh my, my baby doesn’t do any of those things at nine months. I feel like crying.

    • Hey Mika,

      You go ahead and have a little cry if it helps. Sometimes crying helps me, you know, get it out.

      Once that’s done, figure out what steps you could take to make things even a tiny bit better. Almost always this means changing what happens at bedtime. Change is hard and often a bit scary but you would be surprised at how quickly things can change for the better.

      You can totally do this, trust me!

  10. Is this for real? Baby doesn’t have a pacifier, goes to sleep on his own and sleeps eleven hours. Keep dreaming moms!

    • It’s so real! I’ve been following Alexis’s advice and my 4 month old is putting herself to sleep in the swing for naps and bedtime with no pacifier (but she is a thumb-sucker). We just keep trying little changes that are admittedly scary (like that first time you leave the room when she’s still awake) but being consistent works!

  11. Hey! JG is turning 9 months in a couple of weeks and he has been on an early rise spurt for several weeks now. He goes to bed at 7:30 to 8pm, but wakes punctually at 5 am every day. My DH began to bring him into bed with us to get him to sleep longer, in spite of my efforts to tell him that that was not a good idea… and I think JG began to wake up for that. Now it feels like it’s a permanent thing, and it’s frustrating. I’ve tried the wake to sleep method, but then he just starts waking up even earlier!! During the day, he sleeps 30 minute naps when he’s alone and 2 hours only if he sleeps with us. Any tips on how to wean him from this early morning waking to sleep with mom and dad? Thank you!!

  12. Early rising as mentioned above is kicking my tail too. Daycare has his room on one nap, even though he is only 10.5 months, but he certainly doesn’t belong in the wee baby room, so bed is about 6/630, then we are up and hollering at 5 am. Gah. No control over the day sleep has led to no control over the rest.

  13. My 11 month old son is an amazing sleeper. 7 pm to 7 am. 2-3 naps a day for an hr each. We put him to sleep with us in our king size bed then transferred him to crib from early on and were afraid he’d not be able to start going to sleep on his own. We were shocked when, a few weeks ago, he started doing just that!! He stopped wanting us to put him to sleep.

    But… now he’s not going to sleep on his own anymore and he refuses to let us snuggle him to sleep. Screaming for hours each night. I hope its a short stage.

  14. I’ve got 9 month old twin girls and am a single parent from the start. I stuck with a routine since aged 8 weeks and since 13 weeks they’ve slept thru the night. Both have COMPLETELY different personalities but I’m very strict with a routine. As a result they both nap for 45-60 mins in the am and 60-90 mins in the pm and 10.5-11.5 hours every night. Neither have pacifiers, they fall asleep on their own and don’t have any sleep aids whatsoever so it is possible. Believe me. Just be consistent and in charge. You’re the boss not them!

  15. My daughter has been sleeping 11 hours or more through the night since she was 6 weeks old, I wuld have to dream feed her, I took the dummy away at 5 months, stop night feeds etc…. And she is almost 11 months now! She brilliant sleeper but don’t reali nap due in day but tbh is rather her sleep all night, 3 meals a day, 1 healthy snack a day!!
    Pregnant with my second and so she’s good bcoz if I want to nap she generally will nap with me!!!
    Bed and bottle at 8pm wakes up at 8 sometimes later!
    Think I’m very lucky!

  16. This does not sound like my son at all!!!!

    He is the most adoring happy active child during the day and takes 2 goodish naps in the day time, eats solids and he is already walking.

    First i have to say we were blessed with a ‘good’ sleeper, but that good only lasted till he turned 5 months. He woke once a night from the first night we brought him home until he started teething, but i don’t think teeth can cause all this…

    At about 7 its bath time then he has a bottle and before 8 he is fast asleep and peaceful. he then wakes up at about 10 and falls back asleep mostly by himself. then comes 12 and he is up and refuses to sleep unless he has a bottle and lies on mom. even sleeping in this way only guarantees about an hour of sleep at a time and each time he wakes he wants something to drink, if he is in his crib he tends to wake every half hour. he only takes about 2 sips and then he goes back to sleep. this carries on all night till about 9:30 when he has his first nap of about 1,5 hours.

    what can we do to try and fix this as we did try cry it out, but he cries for almost 2 hours and is still not asleep by then my heart is breaking and i tend to give in. Should i leave him to cry longer? what are the other options, i have read the info on this blog and we have tried most of it with no luck.

    This mom needs sleep HELP!!!!

    • Our daughter was very similar. Waking all the time for nursing.

      She was small and we worried she might actually be hungry, so we always fed her.

      Well it was obviously a comfort thing. We transitioned slowly, first moving to holding her and getting her back to sleep that way. It seemed like an easier transition. We did that for a few weeks and then moved to helping her fall asleep, or back asleep, by her self in the crib. Trying to bring her to the bed to sleep with is doesn’t work, it made her expect food and nursing. Of it didnt show up it was screaming. And screaming inches from your ear, which is harder to not give into.

      The crying lessens over time. You know she is safe, and not in pain.

  17. Hi – My son is 9 months old and sleeps exactly 8 – 8 every night without waking up. I’m trying to get him on a routine to nap in his crib and I’ve managed to get him to do 1 ~1.5hr nap around 11 but a second nap in the afternoon is SCREAM fest!! it is NOT working.. given he’s sleeping 12 hours through the night, is it reasonable to do 1 2hr nap around 12 or 1 instead?

  18. I must say, after reading these comments, it reminds me that every baby is different. My son is 9mo and from day one I would read about how to make him sleep better. Some things worked, some didn’t. But regardless, I drove myself nuts.

    Ladies, please know you’re doing the best you can and some mommies are just “lucky”. They don’t have the magic touch or no some secret you don’t. Hang in there. 🙂

    • I am with you on that Erika. I went on this site several times each day since my daughter was 2 1/2 months driving myself crazy wondering why she wakes each time. Once you stop doubting yourself as a parent things are much better. Believe that this will pass ladies and enjoy this moment!☺

  19. Hi you guys, please help!!! My 9 month old is a very happy go lucky boy and we never have any problems with him, he is also a very good sleeper, untill about two weeks ago, we went on vacation for 10 days!!! But ever since we are back home he doesnt want to fall asleep!! He is crying and screeming!! He is usually with a baby sitter during the day! Can it be that he now have seperation anxiety seeing and might be scared that I wont be here if he is awake? I just hate to see him like this and dont know what to do!!! PleAse give me some advice!

  20. Help! Please!
    My 9.5 month old son has always been a “good sleeper”. Quick history-he was born 7 weeks prem and was in NICU x 3 weeks. Was on a strict 3 hour schedule there. He altered it to a 4 hour schedule himself upon coming home. He stuck to that for a few month, other than when having a growth spurt. Oh, he also has acid reflux to the point where he stopped breathing a few times ( no fun), but that has been sorted out on Meds. After about 4 months, he suddenly started throwing a 6 hour daytime nap in the mix. He was still sleeping all night, and waking him was just not a good idea for our sanity! This decreased at 6 months. I would do a dream feed at around midnight or 1, and he slept all night like a dream.
    I went back to work at 6 months, and dad is home with him. Baby immediately went on a daytime nap strike. When I got home, he wanted to be cuddled and fed/nursed, and immediately went to sleep for several hours, waking for an hour or two, and then going to bed for the night. We dropped the dream feed about a month ago.
    Now, he is showing quite a lot of seperate on anxiety, teething, and has a cold-poor guy!
    Over the last week, he has decided he does not want to sleep. Period. He will not let me cradle him for a cuddle, and even humming his usual lullaby causes screaming. Once asleep, he has good naps, and sleeps through the night.( I had surgery on my hand last week, which makes it hard to hold him and lift him-he is 25 lbs!)
    I don’t want to put him in his crib and just let him scream. I know he has some separation anxiety right now. So, I am trying a routine of reading a story, dancing with him a bit, as he doesn’t want to rock, and then putting him down. I sit in the rocking chair in his room, and don’t talk or say anything for about a minute. Then I lay him back down, if necessary, reassure him that he is just having a sleep, and sit back down. I add a minute each time to about 3-4 min, and then stick to that interval for reassuring him. He takes between 10-20 min to stop screaming and fall asleep.
    I just need some reassurance that I am doing the right thing, and that this is probably just a phase!

  21. Hi there, I need help. My 9 month old has become a terrible sleeper. He was great before, would go to sleep on his own no problem. I’ve rocked him to sleep only 3 times before, and it’s only worked because he’s been hysterically tired. He uses a pacifier. It feels like the last few months he’s started waking up in the night and his naps are horrendous. He’s still taking 3, and yesterday 2 of them took an hour for him to get down, and then he only slept maybe 45 mins. I’m sure he’s stuck in an overtired cycle that I can’t break him out of. And he’s inconsolable when he’s trying to go for naps. I can pick him up but he just pushes with all his might to get down. He rolls and is now standing in his crib. If I leave the room, he loses his mind (which he is doing now-going on an hour ten), and I can’t help him. I don’t know how to fix this.

  22. Hello, I feel your pain! My daughters just about 8 months and it’s a struggle now for her to stay/ go back to sleep on her own. She’s always been a fussy High strung baby but at about 4 months would sleep 4-6 hour stretches. Bed at 7-8 then sleep (2-3 feedings during night) to 7 ish. Now at almost 8 months it’s all gone downhill. She’s completely drained and ready for bed at 6, wakes at 10&12, stays awake til 2 ish, wakes at 430 ish, I either fight her to go back to sleep at that point or were up for a very fussy day. She doesn’t eat well during the day so I refuse to wean her at night ( shes too stubborn any way) I believe she’s waking up to eat because she is hungry but I try and try and cannot get her to eat more during the day. She is definitely teething and has some tummy issues. Just thought I’d share just in case someone else is going through this, when I’m up for hours at night trying to get her to sleep I enjoy reading these 😄 I should also add I’m going to try a new bedtime routine and maybe later bedtime? She is formula fed and on solids, 2-3 naps during the day but fights me 90% of the time because she can stand in crib now and wants to be awake 😄 I’ve been on my own with her at night since 6 weeks old due to my husbands work schedule. Any advice is greatly appreciated!

  23. Hi, I was wondering I have a 11 month old who hates sleep, he won’t take naps and when he does finally fall a sleep he only sleeps a few minutes and that is it for him cannot lay him down for another nap. When bed time comes he’ll scream and cryjjust fight going to bed but once I do get him to sleep again he’ll wake I can’t get my baby to seep been like this since he was born I was hoping he would grow out of it but now he’s almost a year.

  24. HELP!! My son is nearly 11 months old and will not sleep.
    He has a nap for about a hour around 11am then maybe another around 3pm for about 20mins then he is awake till about 8.30 when i put him down in his cot.
    Proberly sleeps till 2-3am then wakes and wont go back to sleep till 5-5.30 which my alarm goes off at 6.30am so i can get my other children up and ready for school,then the whole day starts again!!!

    Help please as he has really bad seperation issues and spends his time awake crying and holding onto my leg all day.

    • Hi Kelly,

      Check out the Sleeping Through the Night series above as I’m pretty confident that’s the root problem for you guys. Not easy to sort out for sure but DEFINITELY worth the effort. I’m guessing it all boils down to how he falls asleep at bedtime. Is he clingy? Probably but I’m guessing that a lot of the separation issues are related to sleep deprivation. So if you can make things better on that front, the clingy stuff will abate.

      – Read those 3 posts (see above)
      – Gradually start pushing bedtime back (if he’s waking at 3:30 PM he probably will do better with a bedtime closer to 7:30 PM)
      – Changing what happens at bedtime should make dramatic improvement in his being awake between 3-5 AM.
      – If his bedtime does get moved to 7:30 PM his real wake time should probably be around 6:30 AM. You might want to start waking him when you get up so that you can reset his schedule so his night sleep is less disjointed.

      Try all this for 5 days before you give up. You can do this!

      • Hi Alexis,
        I read your sleep guide and thought it had great information. I have a 10 month old little boy. He was born under weight (not preemie). He is growing and developing as he should. Since, he was a month old he has been on a schedule. He goes to bed between 7:30-8:30pm. We put him in the crib with his white noise and some toys and let him fall asleep by himself. He sleeps until 11-12pm and then wakes up and has 5-6oz bottle. We change his diaper and he goes back to sleep immediately. Then he wakes up again between 4-5am to feed and then he has 3-4oz bottle. We change his diaper and he goes back to sleep until 7-7:30. My question to you is, “is this normal behavior?” because he still underweight for his age (but normal giving the birth circumstances) I feel that he needs those bottles, but on the other hand I don’t want to promote a routine that could be detrimental to him later. Please advise us!

  25. Hi I have 9 month old baby girl who have is sleep though the night. She sleep in around 8 pm and get up around 11 pm then after the bottle feeds she usually get up around 3 am then 7 at morning, I think Bc of hungry and she just does. Not have skill to go back sleep her own? What should I do ??

    • Chen,

      I’m guessing the root issue is her falling asleep with a bottle at 8 PM. You don’t say this but it’s a strong guess. Change how she falls asleep – remove the bottle from your bedtime routine. This establishes the basis for night weaning. Once that has happened you can start gently reducing the amount of formula she gets during the night – make bottles smaller by 1 oz every night. But the key is to change what is happening at bedtime first. Good luck!

      • I do not get it. What do I need to do ! She usual get up and eats 4 oz is she is not eat no sleep at night and she cry

        • Hey Chen,

          What I’m suggesting is that if your daughter is taking a bottle NEAR or AT her bedtime this behavior is going to establish a “bottle=sleep” association for her. If she has this association (and I believe she does) your attempt to not give her a bottle at night is going to result in crying. If you want to wean off the night bottle you need to first remove the bottle portion of your bedtime routine. After you’ve made that change you’ll have more success not giving her a bottle in the middle of the night.

          good luck!

      • Alexis,
        I have a 10.5 month old. I see what you are talking about with object permanence and waking. BUT I don’t know what to do about it. I feed her and rock her to sleep. If I put her in her crib awake, she screams until she pukes ALL over the place. My husband and I feel very defeated and tired. Alex (baby girl) has been staying up after falling asleep from 8-830 until 10pm and then proceeds to cry every 45 mins. How do I implement the cry it out method if she pukes when I try?
        Any advice would be awesome!

        • This is how most kids are – either FULLY asleep or FREAKING OUT about it. This is how people end up in cryitoutsville BTW.

          If she pukes instantly my first thought is separate her last feeding of the day by a longer stretch of time, give her time to digest. Because the puke isn’t an emotional response. It’s simply fully belly + undeveloped tummy valve + clenching stomach muscles. You can fix any of that but you CAN reduce the full belly issue.

  26. Help! Ok my son is a ball of awesome who is slowly trying to kill me via sleep deprivation! He’s 11 month old, he is highly active and has been walking since 8 month. He’s a very independent kid who can easily play on his own and does not need or have time for lots of cuddle in the daytime! BUT ten kid has had the same sleep schedule his entire life! He goes to bed at 8 after bath singing dim light and white noise and bottle. He the. Wakes up at 12,3,6 and finally at 830 for the day. THIS IS EVERY NIGHT. He eats finger foods and is taking 2 naps a day one at 12 for about an hour and one at 3 for about 2 hours sometimes on terrible days 3 naps. He drinks a bottle at 3 am and 6 am at night. He won’t get comfortable and continue sleep with a full diaper he still gets changed 1-2 times a night because he’s like a camel. He doesn’t wkae up and party but he does wake up and he is angry about it then get what he needs an dna k to zzz land! We have tried cry it out both in intervals and cold turkey and it was ww3! Last attempt he cried 2 hours and was so hysterical he started puking and it took me another 2 hours to calm him back down. He was hysterical to say the least. In intervals I got him to sleep but he still woke at his “scheduled” times every night. I am at my wits end! I don’t know what to do but I do know I need sleep!

  27. Hello,

    We have an 11.5 month old who has been consistently taking two naps (8:30-10 am – sometimes 10:30, and 12:30-1:30 – sometimes 2) for 4 months now. Note that she wakes between 5:30-6:30 am.

    Over the past week her morning nap has been from 8:30-11 am and she has been refusing her afternoon nap. She routinely goes to bed at 6pm but we have been putting her down between 5-5:30 because she is completely exhausted by this time.

    We tried capping her morning nap at 10:15 am today but her afternoon nap resulted in a lot of tears and was only 30 minutes.

    Struggling to figure out if she is ready to begin transitioning to one nap or if this is just a phase. Please help!!

    • Hi Julie,
      My son is 10 months old as of yesterday. He has been on a schedule since his first month of birth. I follow the Mom’s On Call suggested schedule for his age group. They say that they should have 2 naps that are 1-1 1/2 hours long. The third nap is a 30-45 min nap if they need it. Sometimes he takes his third nap and sometimes he doesn’t. I think she might be sleeping too much on her naps. Try keeping the naps less than 2 hours and gently wake her up. Then give her a little snack and play time. It also sound like she could use the third short nap. I hope this helps! Good Luck!

  28. Hi Lady! You are awesome!! I was referred to your site when my now 18 month old was 4months. I find myself coming back every now and then when I’m in a sleep pickle. Anyway now that daylight savings has shown it’s nasty face my 18 month old is refusing his nap. He goes down for the night at 7:30 and wakes about 6:30-7:00 and naps at noon. He used to be great at napping. not a peep. But now he is yelling and crying. He has been crying for 30 minutes now, not hysterically or I would have gone in there but he seems mad. He is yelling and crying. I need suggestions…. PLEAsE!? THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR WONDERFUL SUGGESTIONS AND INSIGHT!

    • Well I fear I will seem far less awesome when I tell you that there is no magic insight here! His body clock will take time to adjust to the “new” naptime. You could experiment with pushing it back slightly – to say 12:30 PM. This is also probably hampered by the fact that many kids have a sleep regression around 18 months. So really the secret sauce is to just keep calm and carry on.

  29. Hi, we did CIO around 5 months with our 10 month old, and it worked great. After that, we all started sleeping in the night, she wasn’t up at 5 when my husband got up for work anymore, etc.

    She is now 10 months. She’s up between 7 and 8 in the morning, goes down for her first nap at 10ish. That goes fine. She sleeps for an hour and a half to two hours.

    She will NOT go to sleep on her own for her afternoon nap (2:30ish). For a long time, I have just been rocking her to sleep for that nap, and it worked fine. Now, when I lay her down in her crib (after 20ish minutes of her sleeping in my arms to make sure she’s cycled through to a deep sleep) she just wakes up.
    Sometimes she’s fine till bedtime (7:00) but lots of the time she’s grumpy for the rest of the day.

    Ideally, I would like her to go down on her own for this second nap as well, but more than that, I just want her to sleep longer.

    Are my expectations too high? Is 20 minutes a reasonable amount of time for a second nap for a 10 month old?

  30. My 11 month old goes down very easily and consistently at 7pm. He had been sleeping until 6:15-6:30 without question but for the past month he’s been waking up around 5:00a. He naps really well at 9a and 2p, usually for 1.5-2 hours each nap. I’ve tried waking him up early from the naps, and I’ve tried not going in to him in the morning, but nothing seems to help him sleep past 5a. Sometimes if I leave him to play/whine for 30-45min he will go back to sleep, but I’m worried this is messing up his sleep for the day. Is this just our new reality or is he trying to tell me to change something up and I’m not getting the message?

  31. My daughter nevaeh just will not go to sleep at all I tried letting her play nothing try letting her cry it out nothing I even tried toys and the warm bottle I tried rocking her as well nothing what should I do to get her down please help me

  32. Who all can give me advise on how to make a baby boy

  33. Who all can give me advise on how to get her down who all did exsepect to have a kid when u did

  34. How do I get my 10.5 month old baby girl to sleep with out her fighting sleepiness and just fall asleep with out all the fussiness my wife and I have huge trouble getting asleep

  35. So my 12.5 month old is allergic to sleep. Here’s the deal he has had 8 ear infections in 6 months we just got tubes 11 days ago. I was thinking this might help but no such luck. He wakes up between 5am and 7am. He takes two naps for 1-1.5 hours each at 9am and 1p mostly and goes to bed at 7:30. For the most part he now nurses to sleeps at nap and bedtime. I would like to be done with nursing but it’s the only tool that works. He is up every 2 hours sometimes more at night and nurses back to sleep. He use to go to sleep awake. He has never slept more than 4 hours. He doesn’t take a bottle or a pasifier. He has a lovey but not really attached to it. He just started walking so as soon as he gets up he stands in the corner of his crib. He had a sound machine and dark room. Oh and the mostly lovely part if I try to let him cry it out. Like let him cry for 2 hours (cause I have) he gets so worked up he pukes all over himeself. Any help, support and/or suggestions are greatly needed and appreciated.

  36. Hi! I love your website thank you! I have a question as to whether my 11month son’s sleep is normal/ok/enough… he often only has 2 short naps in the day (45mins) but always goes to bed easily by 7pm and usually sleeps through to at least 6am waking once around 10pm for a feed. Is there more I should be doing or are we on track? That is the ‘norm’ but over the last couple of weeks he was struggling with his morning sleep so I resorted to driving him to sleep (and him only getting 20mins) and then the nights deteriorated quite drastically. I think a big heap of separation anxiety kicked in which triggered it so I’m just wanting to know the best things I can do to get him the sleep he needs. Is it more important to have regular times for day sleeps or should I wait for ‘tired signs’…? And if he wakes after a short time in a day sleep how long do I leave him before getting him up? He usually starts bawling and not resettling (just tried leaving him to cry for about 45mins, he didn’t go back to sleep and I couldn’t handle it, now he’s up and happy?!). Aaah lots of questions sorry, but any help would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks 🙂

  37. Hi Alexis,

    Question: Our previous amazing sleeper (thanks to your advice), has just learned to pull-to-stand and suddenly cannot go to sleep on his own anymore. We follow his routine, bath, bottle, book, dark room with white noise and he rubs his eyes (his normal sleepy cue), and we sing his goodnight song and as we leave the room, he stands up and starts screaming. He has occasionally fussed for less than 10 minutes before falling asleep, but this is a whole new thing. The only way we can get him to sleep at night is to stay in the room and rub his back/redirect him from trying to stand until he falls asleep. Naps are a disaster and barely happening. He has never co-slept, but the only way I can get him to nap is to bring him into the bed. Otherwise, it’s just him standing in his crib, screaming.

    Any advice on this transition? We successfully used your swing method from 8 weeks old and his has been an amazing sleeper since that time.


  38. I got these for my little ones, and it worked wonders! Highly recommended

  39. I sleep trained my son at 6 months old and he was doing a fabulous job. He’s going to be 9 months in a few days and omg sleep regression has kicked it. He wakes up anywhere between 5-5:30. I then put him down for a nap 2 hours after he’s been up. Then usually he’ll take a afternoon nap and maybe a nap around 3:30. I then start his bedtime routine around 6:30 and he’s in his crib by 6:45. Last night he cried for 20 minutes which he hasn’t done since I sleep trained him 2 months ago! After 20 minutes I went back in and gave him an extra 3 oz of formula (he has 8 oz before bedtime) and put him down. He maybe cried for a few seconds and fell asleep. I don’t know what to do!!!! I don’t know if I should give him more milk from the start?maybe up his formula to 10 oz and then put him down. Do I just let him cry it out and eventually he’ll fall asleep?

  40. My little man is 10.5 months old. He is a very happy guy. I know that he isnt getting enough sleep, though you really cant tell during the day. He isnt winy or crying, he just plays and is very busy. He just ditched his morning nap at daycare (more about that in a minute) but his afternoon nap he sleeps from about 12:30-2:30 or 3 (again, at daycare). His bed time is 7:30 and has been since he starting having one… around 3.5-4 months old. Problem is, he dosent stay asleep. Also, week days, he has to be up and out of the house at 6am. Ideally I would be happy if he slept from 7:30pm-5:30am. I could even get him to bed at 7pm if I needed to, but I dont get him home until 6 when we have dinner, a bath and then a little “play” before bed.

    I know at daycare they put him down in the crib, no pacifier or lovey, with a white noise machine and he falls asleep. Just recently he has been “fighting” his am nap where he cries for 30-45 minutes so they give up and put him down again for the afternoon one where he just falls asleep. Easy peasy right?!

    Home is a different story. Even with naps. If I put him in his crib and walk out, he will scream and cry and now we have added standing up to this party. Night time, I typically do a bath at 6:30, go into his room and put his jams on, read a book or sing a song, nurse him and then he falls asleep somewhere around 7:15-7:30. BUT, even if he falls asleep while nursing if he isnt fully asleep I put him down and he rouses… and starts to cry if I leave him. This results in my picking him back up and rocking him until he is out like a light and then putting him down.

    At one point (following the above schedule) he was sleeping for about 5 hours, waking at 12:30-1:00ish and nursing… then going back to sleep. The issue became getting him into the crib after this feeding. It dosent happen. So I carry him to my room and we co-sleep for the rest of the night. I get up at 4-4:30am every day to start my day… at that point I will either wake my husband and let him know he is in the bed or try to get him into the crib again… usually with no luck. It dosent matter anyway because he is usually UP and ready to party at 4:00am anyway… WAY TO EARLY!

    Now he has been waking at 10:30. My husband went in a few nights and tried to rock him to sleep. It worked once. Not anymore, now he sees him and realizes he isnt me and starts crying “mummm mummmm mummmm” until I come to the rescue and nurse him and rock him back to sleep.

    I wanted to “try” CIO at night since I know it worked at daycare for naps… and maybe if I can get it to work at home he will get his morning nap back… before its time to drop it again… but I did it one night for 15 minutes and just couldnt bear it. He was screaming and standing… screaching, coughing and just sounding like he was in agony. I went in after 3 min and layed him down then stretched it to 5…. but it was horriffic. At the 15 min mark I caved and picked him up and rocked him… he was asleep in about 30 seconds.

    I need serious help… Im a sucker apparently.

  41. Hi Alexis,

    I just wanted to say a HUGE THANK YOU!!!!! for your insight on sleep training. My daughter is currently 10 months old and is now able to put herself to sleep on her own in her crib. I never thought this day would come, but thanks to your strategies we were able to do it with minimal crying and emotional distress (for mom and baby….but more for mom…lol).

    I found your site late in the game when I was desparately looking for sleep solutions when DD was 8 months old. She was sick and teething at the same time. She was hardly napping for me and would only go to sleep when my husband or I held her. For a time, I was forced to hold her all night because she would not sleep otherwise. I knew this could not continue -my back was killing me-, but I was having such a hard time with her crying it out for an hour or longer. I found your blog and it was as if a light bulb came on. A way to help her get to sleep without us being in the room, yet she was still finding comfort from the swing~ perfect! We brought our swing back upstairs, strapped her in, and put her to sleep by rocking. We worked our way down the speed settings and then got her to fall asleep in her swing with no movement. All through this process there was almost no crying. It was so wonderful. Tonight we moved her to the crib again and we did have some crying and screaming because now she can stand in her crib, but as you predicted, it only lasted about 20-30 minutes and she was able to calm herself down and fall asleep on her own. So, for all you readers out there, if you’re wondering if Alexis’ strategy works even on older babies, it does! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

  42. Hello!
    I follow your site religiously. but am still not able to get the ST down…Just wondering if at 9.5 months, bedtime goes by wake time or do we set a bedtime? Some days naps are over by 2, and other days by 3. keeping him awake until 7/730 seems really long? I’ve been ST and he’s been crying an hour every night until 7-730. Not sure what’s going on. Would appreciate a response. Thank yu!

  43. Finally we found something that worked for us:
    Very happy that we found this method on the internet, we all are having a good night’s rest now.
    Can really recommend it!

  44. My grandson is almost a year old and has never slept through the night. He fights sleep, and often wakes crying sometimes screaming. He has a safe warm comfy home and crib it’s normal sounds in the home, I mean no fighting or upsetting life style. Very calm and loving place, but he fights and fights sleep. He sleeps on a average 3-4 hours a night and on average 2, 20-30 min naps… On occasion an hour or so. He has had some ear trouble with teething but we keep a close eye with his doc on that. Other than that he just fights sleep. And he gets himself very cranky of course because he is so tired. What can be done? And is this normal?
    Worried grandma.

  45. I really hope you still reply seeing as this post is years old, my nephew (just turned 1) has extremely bad night terrors, sometimes every hour a night, he still gets 2 bottles of milk while he sleeps. his days are basically: wake up at 9am-10am, milk + short nap from 11am-12pm, breakfast, play time, milk + nap around from 3pm-4pm (some days he doesn’t nap AT ALL), play time until 6/7 when its dinner time, bath at 9pm, milk + sleep. i’m assuming he’s overtired, but how do we try and help fix it? he refuses to nap most days, he is clearly tired but he will drink his milk and cry like he’s getting beat until he’s taken out of his stroller (he’s put to naps with milk and walking in the stroller in his room) he normally ate whatever but since his stools have become harder he has switched to lactaid milk, more fruits and veggies and less sugary and salty garbage. i’ve told his mom to give him baths earlier (at 8) and sleep earlier which will hopefully help but if it doesn’t what do we do? is his sleep schedule not regular at all and should we change it or is it too late? is there anything we can even do at this point to fix it?

  46. What’s a realistic number of night wakings to expect if a 9 month old is still struggling to start solids?

    My baby takes 2 naps (about 3 hours day sleep) and can certainly fall asleep on her own. But she’s up nursing 3-4 times a night. She nurses about every 2.5 hours during the day and if I can get an ounce of solid food in her, I consider it a victory. Are these wakeful nights normal for my situation? I don’t want to withhold milk if she needs it but, you know, I also want to sleep.

    Thanks to anyone who may have insight.

  47. Alexis,
    Wondering if you have any insight/advice for mom of sensitive 11 mo:

    I’m currently on night 4 of CIO with my 11mo DD, transitioning from co-sleeping. I loved co-sleeping with her, but it began to be a problem as she became more mobile, and still would only fall asleep around 10:30/11. She needs an earlier bedtime in a place where she is safe (i.e., the crib).

    Before we started,the schedule was this: We would climb into bed around 9:30- (many nights she was very hyper at this time) When she got all her energy out, she would nurse until she conked out around 10:30/11 pm. Then, she would sleep most (but not all) nights until her morning feed at 4:30am. She would on/off feed until 8:30 am when she woke up.

    For CIO, our goal has been to get her into her crib around 8:00 pm. Our routine has been nurse, diaper change, pajamas, bedtime story with Daddy, crib.

    Night #1: Cried for an hour, then on and off until 1:00 am when she cried more and I went in to give her a night time feed. I saw that she was sitting up and had had a poop blow out and had to change her diaper, sheets, pajamas before feeding her and putting her back. I’m not sure she slept at all. I brought her back into bed (following your advice) for her morning feed around 4:30 am.

    Night #2: Cried for 1.5 hours then slept until 3 am! To stay consistent, I brought her back into bed with me around 4:20.

    Night #3: We started a little later, and I did some of the routine my husband does (diaper, pjs, book) because my husband came home late, and put her down around 8:30. She cried for 2 hours, stopped for maybe an hour, then cried again around 11:00. I thought she might be hungry, so I nursed her and put her back down awake. She cried a little, but fell asleep for about an hour (a sign she was hungry, right?) Then, at 12:30, she woke up and cried for another 1.5 hours, and was awake again until I took her into bed again around 4:30 am.

    Night #4: We put her down at 7:30, bc she was very tired at 7 and wanted to nurse. It is about 9:30 and she is still crying.

    Thoughts: 1. She is VERY attached to me (mom), and began crying even before her book with Daddy tonight. Could she be crying this long because of her attachment/object permanence?
    2. Naps: She’s never been a great napper, but again I’ve been trying to follow your advice and cosleep with her during the day so she gets at least one solid nap in. She has been EXHAUSTED during the day though, so it has been hard to schedule the naps (waking up late, falling asleep at the breast when I feed her). She had an accidental nap on the breast at 5:00pm during the day of Night 3. So I tried to make today as much like the day before Night 2 and give her a long nap in the middle of the day and not let her nap after 4pm.

    Is it normal for an 11 mo to cry for so long 4 nights in a row? I feel like I’m torturing her, but trying to stay consistent as possible if this is just how it goes. If she needs more feedings, I’m not sure when to go in. I’m afraid she will just stay awake waiting around for the next time I go in there…

    And last thought: Should we have started all of this at her “normal” bedtime of 10 pm before trying to move her bedtime to earlier?

    Any help would be great!

  48. My 10.5 month only has 4 teeth all coming at the same time. Before this we would have milk read and he would fall asleep on my in chair and sleep all night only waking for one feed. Since teeth he cries when I put him down, wakes alot at night and again only wants me (mummy). Last night he woke for feed at 11 but then was awake till 430am. Just seems to be night time as morning nap is in buggy and arvo sleep is in cot. Just taken me over an hour to get him off this evening.
    Is this just cos of teeth?


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  2. Let him cry? Never! Until you do. – La tela di Carlotta

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