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Preparing for Your Second Baby: The Crib Decision

January 16, 2015 |  by  |  2 YO, 3 YO, crib safety, parenting, sleep environment
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This is part of a series that will discuss things you may want to consider as you prepare for the arrival of your second baby. Or third. Or fifth. While there are many things you may be focused on (like snagging your one remaining pacifier from the bottom of the fish tank) this post is going to focus on furniture, or more specifically, the crib decision.

Many parents get pregnant right around the time kiddo #1 turns 2. This is result of a magical convergence of having enough time pass so that you’ve forgotten how difficult newborns can be while enjoying the sparky fun of a cool little 2-year-old kid, leading to the conclusion, “We should totally make another one!”

As such they start looking at the crib, where their 2-year-old is happily sleeping, crafting clever strategies to gently wean their toddler into a big kid bed to free up the crib prior to the arrival of the new baby. Nobody wants their toddler to feel “pushed aside” when the new shiny baby arrives, so they wisely start plotting their big kid bed transition months before their due date.

But before we get too far down the path of shuffling your toddler into a big kid bed, let’s get in the Wayback Machine and check out the mischief some developmental psychologists got up to…

The Marshmallow Test

In the 1970’s some dastardly professors at Stanford University concocted an evil scheme to torture preschoolers, called “The Marshmallow Test.” They put 4-year-olds in a room with a lone marshmallow telling them, “If you don’t eat the marshmallow for 15 minutes you can have a second marshmallow. But if you eat it? No second marshmallow for you!” Then they laughed evilly while backing out of the room to go bully puppies.

Now most adults can’t wait a full 15 minutes, which is why we snarf cookie dough when there’s a batch baking in the oven. For 4-year-old kids 15 minutes is quite simply an eternity. Unsurprisingly, 2/3rds of the kids ate the marshmallow. Frankly I’m amazed they didn’t all eat the marshmallow.

This was a test of delayed gratification. Can you wait to get something you want? For most young children the answer is, “Not so much.” If 4-year-olds struggle to wait, how well do you think the average 2-year-old would do?

So back to the plan to move your toddler into a big kid bed, I’m hoping you’ll consider not doing this (yet anyway).

My Enormously Unpopular But Totally Correct Opinion on the Crib Decision

If your older child is under 3 years old, still sleeping happily in the crib, and the price of a new crib isn’t financially punishing for you, buy a second crib.

If “because I said so” isn’t a convincing argument for you, I’ll elaborate.

Why You Should Buy a Second Crib

There are a number of reasons why psychically containing your toddler when they sleep is beneficial.

1

2 year old’s have no self control

See: The Marshmallow Test. In this scenario you (or not sleeping, or both) are the marshmallow. Putting physical constraints on a toddler in the form of a lovely crib is far more reasonable then asking them to restrain themselves.

2

The crib is the most elegant form of containment

We’ve talked about the possibility of using the entire bedroom as a crib ; and certainly that’s a viable backup possibility to consider. But if your kiddo is already happily sleeping in a crib, that’s preferable to them sleeping on the floor next to a closed bedroom door.

3

2 year old’s go through some massive sleep regressions

Developmentally your 2-year-old is starting to find their own power and experiment with limits. Even without changes in beds, additions of new siblings, etc. most 2-year-olds will start playing around with delay tactics and calling for you at night. It’s all part of the process of childhood commonly known as, “What can I get away with?”

4

New Baby Bed Bounce

The New Baby Bed Bounce is common to older siblings of all ages. There is a delay of typically 3-6 months between the new baby’s arrival and the New Baby Bed Bounce, which is roughly the amount of time it takes your older sibling to figure out that the baby thing is not just a temporary disruption.The New Baby Bed Bounce typically includes: skipping naps, fighting bedtime, and demanding to come sleep with you at 2:00 AM. Why? Because these are all effective strategies to get Mom/Dad’s full and undivided attention. And because parents are often a bit frayed at this time, or fearful of “waking the baby”, they’re more likely to give in than set firm limits.

5

You’ll be in no position to fight toddler bedtime battles.

Most of the great proactive parenting things you’re doing today will dissipate like the fog in the sun when your new baby shows up. Don’t feel bad about this, it happens to all of us. Yes you can implement strategies to beg, bribe, or otherwise convince your toddler to stay in bed. But many parents of newborns struggle to find the emotional fortitude to do so.

Disclaimer: Use of a crib does not guarantee you an absence of any and all sleep struggles with your toddler. It does however provide a physical restraint for your limit-testing self-control-free toddler. Which vastly enhances your ability to enforce limits regardless of how deeply into the new baby fog you have fallen.

But…maybe you don’t believe any of these things will happen. Kids are like snowflakes (they’re all different) so maybe your little snowflake won’t fall prey to the New Baby Bed Bounce. Not all toddlers have problems with big kid beds right?

So I started pondering this and my dusty math neurons started firing. Which is how this happened.

decision to buy a second crib

Yes I used a decision tree, as people often do. The resulting calculation says that if there is a 3% or greater chance that your older sibling will have messier sleep issues in a big kid bed, you’re better off buying a new crib. And you can’t disagree with this, because math.

Look, between you and me, the world is filled with kids who have successfully transitioned into a big kid bed at an early age. Clearly it can and does happen! But as a general rule, waiting until after their 3rd birthday will help you avoid potential sleeplessness, and with a new baby en route, the last thing you need is less sleep. Three year olds have a much greater degree of self-control, are more verbal, and you’ll have a far wider range of effective parenting tools to use with a 3-year-old kid.

So if you ask me what my vote is in the decision (do I get a vote?), I’m going to go with “get a new crib” every time.

Does anybody else have any thoughts, horror stories, or successes they care to share?


92 Comments


  1. Could not agree more. When people tell me they HAVE to move their toddler to a big kid bed b/c new baby is coming, I give them a crazy look. I then inform them of a place called Ikea.

  2. After your guest post about getting toddlers to stay in bed, I made a comment about transitioning my 2 year old soon to make way for baby#2 and you gave me the above advice. One ikea crib later, I have a 2 year old and a 2 month old both taking naps in their cribs right now. Thank you!

    • So glad it worked out for you!

      As a sidenote, I should make it clear that neither I nor anybody I know works for Ikea so I get no financial gain from selling people Ikea cribs πŸ˜‰

  3. I would agree in principle for the younger-2 crowd, but older 2s I really think you can go either way based on personality. As you say, it has something to do with their impulse control in other situations. I have one of those cautious kids who seems to understand boundaries (doesn’t run away in parking lots, etc) despite not being 3 yet. She transitioned to a bed 2 months ago and has not once escaped it or caused excessive bedtime antics. We were completely prepared to ditch the switch if it wasn’t working, but we felt she deserved a chance on it, and it was worth it. So much easier than hefting her into a crib while massively pregnant.

    Now that new baby is here, we expect it will get tougher and she could regress, but so far so good.

    • For sure. Some kids are just a bit more chill than others. My oldest’s first words were, “You’re not the boss of me” so we knew what we were dealing with.

      Congratulations on the new baby! And the New Baby Bed Bounce is not universal, hopefully you and your chill toddler can just skip right over that step.

  4. Sometimes you still need to transition. I had 2 kids in 2 cribs when my 3rd came along. My oldest was not quite 3 when the baby was born. I did transition my oldest to a big kid bed so my 2 youngest could have the cribs. Having 3 cribs was not really even considered.

    • Sorry, I’m trying to formulate a reasonable response but I’m stuck on the whole “three under three” thing. I have no shame in admitting this but you are a far more courageous parent than I!

      And for sure, as kids get closer to 3 transitions become easier. And also I can imagine that logistically finding room for 3 cribs is a challenge.

      Good luck with your tribe of tiny people!

      • Alexis, What if your toddler is closer to 3yo (birthday in 2 weeks) and he is constantly climbing out of the crib? We put a twin bed in the room with the crib to allow our guy to get used to its presence, but definitely were not forcing him to move. He has since started climbing out of the crib and says he wants to sleep in the “big boy” bed. Unfortunately, this transition has been PAINFUL. His naps previously were a solid 3 hours and night time sleep was 10 hours. Now (with delay tactics and needing one of us to lay with him for a time) he is getting a combined ~9-10 hours sleep per night. Any advice? Little brother is coming in 2.5 months… Sincerely super pregnant and already sleep-deprived πŸ™‚

  5. Yes!! We have baby 2 due in about a month and baby 1 will be 20 months old. We will be a 2 crib family for quite a while, I think. We worked SO hard to get her to finally sleep in that dang (pretty!) crib, we’re not about to bring on the chaos of a big kid bed!

    • Congratulations on your pending new baby!

      There’s no harm in two cribs πŸ™‚ Plus when she gets older you can probably make your pretty crib into a really pretty bed. We went that route, although my boys are always dragging their blankets off to make forts so the beds never actually look pretty, but if they DID, it would clash with the rest of their rooms πŸ™‚

  6. I totally agree with the idea that you should not move your toddler into a bed as part of the welcoming-new-baby prep. However, I totally disagree with the sentiment that you should not move a two year old to a big kid bed until they’re older.

    About 3 months before his baby sister arrived, we transitioned our 20-month old son into a toddler bed. For three nights he needed an extra long, extra-soothing bedtime routine, but went to bed (and more importantly stayed in bed!) with no problems after that. He’s a super spirited, extraordinarily sensitive little fellow, but he handled the transition really easily.

    To be fair, he has been in a Montessori program since he was 4 months old, and he was sleeping on floor beds or cots since around 10 months old. I think that being able to exercise his independence at an early age made sleep a non-issue. Knowing that he could get out of bed when he wanted was a normal part of life, rather than a novelty, so he never “tested” us when we converted his crib to a bed.

    Of course, not every kid is the same, but I wanted to comment that it’s TOTALLY possible to have a painless transition to big kid bed well before the age of 3.

    • With babies there are few “this rule applies 100% of the time” things outside of safety stuff. So some kiddos for sure can and will transition without any issue. Some toddlers won’t even get out of their big kid bed for years even though, clearly, they’re capable of doing so!

      My goal here was to address what I see as the default, “Well you’re pregnant, time to get older bubs out of that crib” decision and simply point out that often there are very valid reasons to postpone a big kid bed and that often, purchasing (or borrowing from a friend) a second crib is the right decision.

      So glad you’re little Bub transitioned so happily!

  7. For the cash-strapped–I see a lot of pack n plays being sold for cheap (under $50) on Craigslist. Lots of babes sleep in swings, bassinets, etc for the 1st 6 months and would fit just fine in a pack n play for the whole 1st year. So, if kid #1 is 2years old when #2 arrives, that could buy you another whole year in which to make the transition.

    • Absolutely! I didn’t want to get into the whole “you know your kid isn’t going to be in that crib for months anyway” issue but it’s totally true – they AREN’T. And Craigslist is a great resource for new-ish barely used baby stuff!

  8. Because of #’s 4&5, we ended up putting my 2.5 y/o BACK in his crib after baby sister was born. He had started to get out of bed at night and would not go back to sleep for anything, even if we laid down with him, which we didn’t want to do. Per his pediatrician’s recommendation, we put him back in and kept him there til he was 3+ with a much better result.

    There’s truly no reason to rush into this milestone!

    • Speaking of pediatrician’s recommendations, we just had my 8 YO annual appointment. Now I adore our pediatrician and he knows about my sleep blog and has even kindly shared a post on it. But every time we have an appointment he asks all these questions about what time D goes to bed, how long he sleeps, does he stay up late on weekends, etc. I always want to respond with, “Duuude, you know I don’t play when it comes to sleep right? Seriously, are you DOUBTING ME?!?!”

      πŸ˜‰

      So glad you got things sorted out with your little dude!

  9. Baby #2 just arrived at our house two weeks ago, and when I saw the title of this post, I thought,”Oh crap. Here she’s going to give a really great tip and I just wasted $500 on a new crib set up!” But then, Huzzah! You’re advice was what we did! When I found out I was pregnant this second time, I asked our pediatrician’s advice on transitioning out of the crib. He said keep #1 in crib as long as you can, ideally until she’s three. Our two year old has never shown signs that she understands that she could climb out of bed, so I opted to buy a new crib that easily converts to a toddler bed and then a full size bed frame. I figured we’d get some mileage out of it.

    Now, I had to have a c-section. Any advice on getting my big kid in and out of the crib without lifting her or teaching her how to climb in and out of it on her own?

    • I love it when people get email from me and immediately think, “Oh crap.”

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      No great answers on the c-section front. What about, temporarily, raising the mattress level and putting a high step stool next to the crib so she can get INTO bed. Then removing the step stool so she can’t easily climb OUT.

      A backup plan might be having her nap elsewhere (mattress on floor?) and having her crib sleep at night when your partner can help get her in/out of bed?

      Good luck!

      • With both of our children we’ve had the issue of them being able to get out of the crib at 18 months. I haven’t seen then do it (just discovered them escaped, sometimes having visibly landing on their heads. . .)

        For our daughter, we moved her to a mattress on the floor and she was 4 when our son was born–she would wake us up yelling at night, but didn’t get out of bed. . .I guess that’s good?!?!

        With our son, there’s no way we can have him not in a bed–there is simply no way to childproof a room enough to keep him safe–he is insane. We have him in a pack and play type bed with netting sides (harder to climb) and I’m not sure if it’s what you’re calling a sleep sack because we’re in France, but it’s basically an over pj with no legs–like a sack. . .or we say like a straightjacket. But the models with the snaps on the shoulders are no good because he can also remove them. . .we just hope he doesn’t figure out how to get out of the bed with these pjs on–and that we find a suitable pj for summer. . .or that he becomes more reasonable before the above worries become a problem.

        His sister (now 5.5) said he can sleep with her–sounds promissing πŸ˜‰

        • HAHA!

          Yes that’s a sleep sack πŸ™‚ I’ve been to France and the selection of baby gear is pretty fantastic. Can you get a similar item that zips up the front vs. having shoulder snaps? Other people with monkey babies have had good luck with these. You simply put them on BACKWARDS (zipper in back) which makes it enormously difficult to get out of.

          Well good luck and let me know how things go with your … uh… highly motivated little dude πŸ˜‰

          • Ours climbed out of his crib at 11 months, and it was already on the lowest setting. He’s very tall, and is apparently part monkey.

            Since then, we took one side off of the crib, and added a little toddler rail. He has enough space to climb out in the mornings, but not enough to fall out while sleeping (I found him sleeping under the crib a few times, after rolling out and then rolling under it).

            We’re talking about baby number two, who would likely make an appearance when our boy is a little over two (if things go as planned, which never happens with babies ever).

            Since he’s already in a crib that he can leave of his own volition, should we make the jump to a real actual bed? We do have a travel crib (the guava one) that we could use for either kid.

  10. Seriously, listen to Alexis. Learn from my mistake! We foolishly moved our 19 month old out of his crib and into a bed (because of child #2), only to spend a lot of time putting him back in the bed, having him fall sleep by the door, etc. A 2nd crib would have been MUCH easier. Ah, if I only knew then what I know now. πŸ™‚ My eldest has always been a restless sleeper and a limit-tester, so we really should have seen it coming! My 2nd will be staying in a crib as long as I can keep him in there.

    • Thanks Kathleen πŸ™‚

      My oldest was a huge limit tester and we had intermittent bedtime battles for ages despite being super consistent about everything. Amazingly he’s grown into a chill little dude, which is both awesome and a bit of a relief. He was in his crib till his 4th birthday πŸ˜‰

  11. Based on your advice a little more than a year ago, we decided to leave big sister (28 months at birth of #2) in her converted crib/toddler bed. Now at almost 3.5 years-old, she still comfortably sleep in it. (Her crib was converted at 22 months since she kept falling out and risked injury). We bought baby a crappy $100 crib that works just fine and plan to move her to her sister’s converted crib/toddler bed once she starts falling out. By then big sister will be around 4 and truly ready for a big girl twin (at 42″ long she already looks huge in the toddler bed)

    • They DO look HUGE in a twin bed. And then horrifyingly, you blink, and they grow up to fit in it. My little guy always wants to have sleep overs ie. having ME sleep in his twin bed WITH him. He’s already 60 lbs and there is just no way to fit an adult in there with him. Then I’m all like, “What the hell happened, he was just born last week right?!?!”

      So glad the crib advice worked out for you – crappy cribs all the way!

  12. I wish I would have read this sooner! #1 has been in a twin bed for a few months now and she likes to wake up in the middle of the night to come get us. With #2 due in a few weeks I’m frightened of what’s going to happen. But #1 will be three in March, so hopefully she will grow out of this stage because there’s no going back anymore.

    • If I had a nickel for every email I get that says “our new baby is due any second and our toddler is up all night heeeellllpp!!!”, well, I would have a lot of nickels.

      This is hard stuff no doubt – but things almost always get worse when a new baby arrives. This would be a great time to double down on the rules ie. You stay in your bed till morning. Talk about this over lunch. Be very clear on what is and isn’t OK. What CAN she do if she wakes up and can’t fall back asleep? What CAN’T she do? Maybe give her a visual cue – put a night light on a timer ($7 at Lowes) – light on = you don’t get out. Light turns off at 6 AM and then YAAAY it’s morning!

      She may not grow out of this phase but with some gentle nudges and firm limits, you can definitely set yourself up for success. Good luck!

  13. 1000 times yes! Why people push the crib transition, I will never know! I know folks who shell out cash constantly for new toys, clothes, preschool, you-name-it but don’t want to invest $200 in a second Ikea crib setup. Whhhhhhhyyyy? Don’t let $200 (if you can easily manage it) stand in the way of at least one of your kids sleeping well. I also know a fair amount of people with no upcoming baby who transition their toddler “because it is time” and then spend months in endless bed-battles. I think because the big milestones (rolling, walking, starting to talk) are done around two, people want something new to obsess about and cause themselves a lot of unneeded bed and potty training related grief instead of following the kids’ lead when they are actually ready at 3+.

    • It’s totally true, if you look at how much you spend on your kids over the course of a year, a cheap crib is barely a rounding error. I always think of things in financial terms (maybe it’s because I have a finance degree?) so I figure, “What would you pay, right this second, to not have to get up at 2:00 AM for 45 minutes. Now let’s take that amount of money and multiply it by months.”

  14. I have a 4 month old so this is all foreign to me at the moment, but your post and these comments are so incredibly helpful as we are hoping to have two close together in age. The two crib thing totally makes sense to me.

  15. We bought a second hand crib for the equivalent of about 5 bucks. Best decision we ever made. Our toddler, soon 3, is still in his crib although outgrowing it quickly. He doesn’t want to move. Considering his reaction to the new baby, taking him out of his beloved crib would have caused us one heck of a lot of hassle…

  16. Great timing with this post! We have a 2.5 very strong-willed little boy who will be turning exactly 3 when baby #2 arrives in May. We have his new room all set up with a twin bed and lots of fun stuff for him. We have not yet transitioned him to the new room and out of his crib in the nursery, but we were thinking about trying in the next few weeks so that the crib can be available for the new baby in May.

    I already had some pause about transitioning him now. As I said, he is very strong-willed and is recently started going through some mama-clingy stuff. I guess they are right that even if they don’t fully understand that a new baby is coming, they can sense the change. He sleeps great at night in his crib. Naps are hit or miss–he’s been on a nap strike for about a month. But he does go in his crib every afternoon during nap time for “rest time.” I tell him that he doesn’t have to sleep, but we all need to rest. He never fights this, even if he doesn’t sleep and he stays in there for an hour.

    I did try doing nap time in his new room the other day and it was a freaking disaster. He kept coming out of the room, crying for mommy, etc. I know it’s going to take a little transition, but seeing that out of the gate makes me very hesitant to change things up right now.

    So here is my question–our toddler will turn 3 around the time the new baby comes. I see that we can expect sleep regression from him 3-6 months after the new baby comes, which puts him around 3.5. Is it better to try to transition him to the new room/big bed now, or wait until it looks like things have calmed down after the new baby comes? His pediatrician told us to make sure he’s out of the crib by 3, but I’m guessing it’s also a terrible idea to transition him right when the new baby comes. Thoughts?

    • Sorry – that should read “2.5 year-old” in the first sentence.

    • Hmmm…that’s a toughie.

      My oldest is very strong-willed too. His first words were, “You’re not the boss of me!” He happily slept in his crib till his 4th birthday. Could we have transitioned earlier? Who knows. We subscribe to the “if it ain’t broke” theory of parenting. I don’t know why your pediatrician feels he needs to be out by 3. Even if you’re thinking of potty training, most boys aren’t night dry for a long time so either they need pullups OR they simply wont’ need to go at night. So that rules out “getting up to pee” as a reason to have him out of the crib.

      I mean I hate to disagree with pediatricians but I don’t see a compelling reason that he needs to be out and he’s already signaling that it might not be a smooth transition so I would vote for keeping him in there.

      • Thanks!! After more thought, this is my thinking, too. He uses the potty once or twice a day when we prompt him at usual times (bath time, morning), but he is no where close to being “trained.” That is also something I am not pushing right now. Whenever we do try too hard to encourage the potty use, he pushes right back. I have a feeling with him that everything is going to come on his terms and will be much easier if we just let that happen. Big boy bed seems to be the same song and dance. I already have a pack-n-play that I was planning to use for the newborn in our room at night, and our first son slept in our room until he was 7 months old. We will just play it all by ear, but I think the oldest staying in the crib for now is definitely the best idea. Thanks again for this post!!

  17. I. LOVE. THIS. BLOG. And I have a comment! I’m just surprised a co-sleeper isn’t mentioned as a crib alternative for a newborn. Maybe someone mentioned it already, but for those first three months, if a crib is not an option (for us, cost and space are both issues preventing a second crib) I find it ESSENTIAL to your sanity, and way less stressful for parents AND baby to be in close proximity but still have your own personal space without the risk of bed-sharing. A co-sleeper is a little 3 sided crib that fits snugly against your big bed, allowing you access to your newborn WITHOUT LEAVING THE BLANKETS. It’s amazing. You go to bed. Baby wakes up hungry an hour later. You scooch her over for a nursing sesh, she goes back to sleep, you scooch her back into the co-sleeper. YOU get back to sleep like, instantly. My first child slept in his co-sleeper til he could stand (it has 2 positions: bassinette height for newborns, and then converts to a pack-n-play style crib for older babies), and THEN we put him in a crib, around 9 months (and with some help from Alexis, got him napping like a champ in no time). He’s now 20 months and yeah, we’re doing that “Should we?” dance so this article comes at a very convenient time. I think like Alexis says, if we make another, the elder will keep the crib for the time being, and the teeny will sleep in our room same as he did for 9 or so months. By then, The big kid will be nearly 3, and much more ready for transition into a toddler bed/Big Sissy’s bottom bunk, and Shiny New Baby can move into the crib. You should really look into it!

    • Why thank you Jenny πŸ™‚

      I don’t mention it here because elsewhere I’ve written about co-sleepers and how co-rooming (baby in room with you) is so great and such but you’re totally 100% right. Most babies do best IN the room with you which is a) much easier for night parenting and b) lower incidence of SIDS. So there’s definitely a whole “Shiny baby won’t be in that crib for months ANYWAY” side of things to consider.

      We actually used our co-sleeper for ages and then later used it as a changing table. So while not an inexpensive purchase, it was actively used in some capacity for over 4 years. So definitely makes a ton of sense!

  18. This feels so great to read because we DID buy a new crib. And I’m so thankful we did for all the reasons stated here (our kids are now 7 months and 2.5 and I could NOT have dealt with my older kid popping out of bed)! Both our cribs can be converted to toddler beds so we’ll use them for a while yet.

    One other note… this might seem crazy but my 2.5 year old actually has been able to get out of his crib since he was like 20 months old and also knows how to unzip his sleepsack… I didn’t want to try turning the sleepsack inside out because I feared my super adventurous climber would try to climb out anyways with it on and get hurt… so we made a makeshift way for him to climb in and out of his crib by pushing a big squishy sturdy chair next to the crib and a step stool next to the chair… he can easily climb in and out of his crib… but somehow the familiar coziness of being in the crib rather than a toddler bed seems to be working for him and he does still stay in there until morning.. something tells me that if there was a big opening on the side of the bed he’d be a lot less inclined to stay put! Anyways… just our weird way of doing things. He also still wears a sleep sack which he puts on and takes off himself! Not planning to convert the crib for a bit longer!

    • Sounds like he’s going to be the kid who is climbing trees by his 3rd birthday πŸ™‚ Hey it works for you and that’s all that matters! Good luck with your clever fella, sounds like he’s going to keep you guys on your toes πŸ˜‰

  19. We were so fortunate that our daughter (for whom we didn’t need this site) transitioned to a real bed early and easily to make room for our son (for whom we are extremely grateful for this site). We took the rail off her crib around 17 months and put her in a big bed at about 20 months. There is a difference of almost 23 months between our kids so she was very secure in her bed before our son arrived but we’re aware that this is a unicorn sort of thing. We won’t be this lucky if we choose to have a 3rd.

    What impacted our decision was that I got too big to lower our daughter into her crib with all sides on and then refused to budget for a second crib. She picked out her sheets and we built the bed while she napped in the basement so she was excited and surprised. Then we talked it up like crazy. We were lucky to face little resistance.

    I’m so glad you fave us “permission” to buy another crib. I don’t think our son will be ready to transition anytime soon. And there’s nothing wrong with that. He won’t be bringing his crib to college.

  20. An IKEA crib is around $100 and got an A rating in the Baby Bargain book I used as my bible. It has been great with baby #1 after reading this I would not hesitate to shell out a measly $100 more for baby #2.
    Here’s a link: http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/80248525/

  21. Yep. I agree! Everyone convinced me that I should move my almost 2 year old to a twin bed and put the 2 month old in the crib, rather than just a pack n play. I finally gave in. After a MONTH of short naps, sleepless nights, and a toddler who 100% refused to sleep anywhere but on the floor by the door (with her little fingers reaching out under the door I might add..) I put her back in the crib. Luckily for me, she went right back to normal. Can’t say I’ll be trying that again anytime before she’s 3. Now baby sis is almost 6 mo, and still in a pack n play. Hmmm ….

    • What an image, you’re little peanut sleeping on the floor with her “sad fingers” poking out into the hallway! So glad to hear that things went back to normal when you returned to the crib πŸ™‚

  22. Great post! This is what we decided to do when baby #2 arrived this fall, and it’s always nice to get some reassurance at a time when nearly every other parenting decision seems like a total toss-up.

    May I suggest a follow-up post or solicit advice from fellow commenters?

    Our two kids, currently, 2.5 and 3 months, are sleeping reasonably well in the following arrangement: 2.5 YO in his room, in his crib, baby in a pack n play in the laundry room, which is adjacent to our bedroom.

    Eventually, as you might imagine, our goal is to get the baby out of the laundry room and into his brother’s room, which is big enough to accommodate them both. When and how? I can envision a couple of options:

    – Wait till baby is reliably STTN, which if he’s anything like his brother, could be another year (gulp). Pro: 2.5 YO will probably have already transitioned to big kid bed and be used to it. Con: Move to a new room may wreak havoc with baby’s sleep anyway, not least of all because big brother will now have the freedom to get out of bed and poke him. Timeline: uncertain.

    – Make the transition sometime between now and the time 2.5 YO moves to a big kid bed. Pro: Big brother will be contained in the crib, and can be kept there until both children are sleeping peacefully. Con: If/when baby wakes at night, he’s more likely to wake his brother, thereby doubling the disturbance to mom and dad. (The rooms are also farther apart.) Timeline: uncertain, but probably after the 4-month sleep regression.

    Anyone else navigate these waters successfully?

    • My 2 cents is that you don’t want a kid under 3 in a big kid bed while sharing a room with a baby. For safety reasons. Little kids don’t always understand things like not giving a baby a blanket or potentially chokable items. So you’re options would include waiting till after the 3rd birthday OR keeping the 3 YO in a crib for roomsharing.

      Personally if the laundry room situation isn’t awesome for you (I’m assuming that doing laundry is still feasible?!?!) you could quite likely keep the 2.5 year old in the crib and move baby into that room around 6 months. Fears of babies waking up older siblings are almost always worse than the reality. You hear every snort and fart from the baby but older siblings don’t. Same goes, surprisingly, with crying.

      This would require a second crib for baby but a cheap crib purchase may be worth it to get him out of laundry room?

      • Yeah, the laundry room thing isn’t ideal, but it also isn’t terrible (I mean, if I couldn’t do laundry with a newborn…). Though I don’t mind buying a second crib.

        Mostly it’s a matter of wishful thinking/obsessively planning ahead, in the hopes that it will somehow hasten us along the path toward more predictable naps and longer stretches of night sleep. In my now-somewhat-experienced heart of hearts, I know it may just take time, but I was so determined to get it right this time around! (Hah.)

  23. So if you made the mistake of moving said toddler to a big kid bed what do you do now? We moved my daughter after her 2nd birthday with great success for 4 months prior to the new baby coming, but now we are having all kinds of issues. We have had to lock her in her room which has resulted in a lot of crying and sleeping on the floor. I fear that if we attempted to go back to a crib at this point she would be so mad she would climb out. S,o just grin and bear it?

    • You are DOOMED DOOMED I TELL YOU!

      Lots of people have successfully moved 2 YO BACK into the crib after unsuccessful transitions so I think going back is definitely a viable plan. You can reduce the climb out factor by having her sleep in a sleep sack (super helpful) and telling her that she needs to stay in bed. Talk over lunch – TELL her that if she climbs out she’ll probably get hurt, that it’s time for sleep, and it’s important that she stay in her bed. Tons of kids are fully capable of climbing out but…don’t.

      Pick up a cheap Craigslist crib and see what happens!

  24. I wish I could have waited, but my 18-month-old climbed out of the crib, and we had to convert her crib to a toddler/day bed sooner than we wanted. By 21 months, she was sleeping on the floor (guess the crib mattress was no longer comfortable?) so we recently just got her a toddler bed. She stays in her toddler bed; I’m not worried about her falling off anymore. However, we needed to sleep train her again and probably will again when she turns 2 (since she goes through sleep regressions like a textbook) and again when she meets her younger sibling in a few months!

    • So glad to hear that she’s staying in her toddler bed. And who knows – maybe she’ll surprise you at 2? Ehhh…probably not (2 is a common dustup for sleep) but at least you’ve figured out how to navigate those waters πŸ™‚

  25. Lots of peers put their 2 yo in a big kid bed. Mine is now “shopping” for her big girl bed reading Ikea catalogs. I kept getting the pressure that she was too old for a sleep sack (even tho it’s a fancy wool one that will easily last until she’s 4). I bought two cribs before #1 arrived from being a compulsive craigslister. The 2 yo sleeping upsets since #2 arrived were WAY WORSE than having the newborn alone. WAY. WORSE. Being up 3x a night with a baby who wants to eat and go back to sleep is easy compared to a 2 yo who wakes up not knowing what she wants. Because, night, you know is when toddlers really have the time to contemplate what they are missing out in the world. Mostly, baby seems to be getting attention…

    My 2 yo loves her crib. She only rarely even stands up in it. Loves. It’s her safe happy place and no way will I make her move to a big girl bed before we have to. She’s sleeping with a pillow and a comforter in there and her conversion kit is gathering dust. The fact that her night time antics don’t include coming in our room, or the baby’s room, are worth $50,000 in my tree.

    • *Compulsive craiglister fist of solidarity*

      Who is a sleepsack-bully? Sleepsacks are fantastic! Je’ adore.

      Sorry to hear that the New Baby Bed Bounce was WAY WORSE. But yeah, it’s totally a thing. Also the LAST THING you want to deal with when you’re up 3X a night feeding a newborn.

      It’s hard, toddlers are so busy during the day eating goldfish, dumping blocks on the carpet, smooshing play dough. Who has time to for quiet moments of contemplation? Luckily 2:00 AM is the perfect time to consider life and discuss these contemplations with your parents.

  26. When we found out that we had baby #2 on the way, we started thinking about the so called “big kid bed”. Like most money conscious parents, we started doing the math to see the cost of a new crib or big kid bed, big difference in both. At the time our daughter was about 20 months old ( kinda sorta young for big kid bed transition ). We didn’t want to rush her in changing from crib to bed, but we both said that if we showed her the big girl bed she wouldn’t be scared of the change. So with that said, we bought a big girl bed from Ikea, and built it with her, she had so much fun helping daddy build her new bed. We placed it in her room so she could get used to it, so she started reading stories to her dolls in the bed and so on so forth. Never showed any interest in leaving her crib, do you blame her? So comfy and cozy and her crib. Several months past, then this one night she didn’t want to sleep, screaming, crying, yelling no sleep, no sleep!!! I went to get her, comforted her asked what was wrong, and she said ” no crib, bed!” Therefore, I put her down in her big girl bed and just like magic “literally” she was out like a light. We left the crib in her room for about a week just to make sure it wasn’t just a fluke and that she really wanted her new bed. Proud to say she’s been sleeping like a big girl in her big girl bed since she’s been about 22-23 months, she is now 27 months old and baby #2 due in about 6 weeks. So all this to say that they will make up their own mind on when they’re ready to do the transition. But once we took out the crib she wanted to play in it and the fun of letting her know that the crib is not hers anymore and your brothers.!! I wish you folks “Good Luck” with this fun adventure of bed transition. We begin ours with helping her understand what it means to have a sibling.

    • Fantastic story of a successful and mindful transition – thanks so much for sharing!

      • It was my pleasure, I’ve been reading your material for a while now and enjoy it quite a bit. Very helpful and also good advice from yourself as well as the parents that comment on your posts. Great work!!

  27. I’m so glad you addressed this. My twins just turned two and I don’t understand why there is such a rush to move out of cribs. We had our third child six months ago and he has been in a pack and play in our room until we just recently purchased our THIRD crib. I say keep them caged for as long as possible. I don’t want anything messing with naptime or bedtime, nothing is worth that risk.

    • Two year old twins and a 6 month old – you are a vylkerie!

      I don’t know why there is a rush either. I mean cribs can be expensive but there are plenty of cheap alternatives or good-quality used ones available. I get that people don’t want to waste money on unnecessary baby items (full disclosure: I bought one of those heated wipe warmer things which is pretty much the poster child for unnecessary) but if you’re going to spend money on baby stuff, spend it on things likely to help everybody sleep better!

  28. We’re expecting #2 in about 5 weeks, but we had to deal with this transition 6 months ago. We had to transition to a bed pretty early (17 months) because my daughter started climbing out of her crib. And then falling on her head. We bought a toddler bed from IKEA, turned her room into a “crib,” and installed a video monitor. We didn’t really have any problems, except when we hit the 18-month sleep regression (but I have a feeling things would have been difficult no matter what). She literally has NEVER tried to visit us in the middle of the night, but that’s probably because she still can’t open doors. Once she can, we’re prepared with handle locks if it’s necessary. We don’t co-sleep…it’s always a disaster for us.

    The one thing we struggled with a little bit was some early wakings for a while. We solved this problem by getting her a “Okay to Wake” clock that turns green when it’s morning. This has helped immensely, and we no longer have her waking at 4am demanding to “Go down-theres” to play. She knows the clock has to be green before she’s allowed to leave her room. It’s been a really useful tool, and would probably work even better for slightly older kids.

  29. I’m with the pack – n – play solution,which is what we’re doing now. You can get great ones on Craigslist for cheeeap! I bought one with a bassinet/height adjustable platform and used it with baby#1 and now#2.
    I’m so glad you posted about this because I often wondered how long people typically let their toddlers sleep in their cribs. For me, I was thinking around 2.5 years but was very unsure ; now I’ll feel more comfortable putting this issue on the back burner.
    So my question is this:
    Once baby#3 comes (in the future) and I have to put #1 & #2 in the same room. .. how the heck do you deal if one wakes the other? Or are on different nap/bedtime schedules?
    Thanks again for your posts! They are by far the most helpful, trustworthy, fair and ENTERTAINING of any I have read (and I’m a mommy-blogs junkie! ).

    • Hey Bailey,

      Here’s the deal – in general it’s not a great idea to have a mobile (no crib) kid under 3 sharing a room with an infant. Toddlers tend to want to help babies without understanding safe boundaries, “Here’s a blanket baby!” So if possible I would encourage you to consider cribs a requirement for sibling room-sharing while they’re both young.

      Waking each other up is often less an issue – YOU wake up every time baby farts but older brother could care less.

      Thanks for the kind words πŸ™‚ I try to be entertaining – not always easy when talking about sleep – but I appreciate that YOU appreciate the effort πŸ™‚

  30. Great post! Question for you. . . I have a 2.5 year old who will turn 3 this May. She is special needs, and quite developmentally delayed. Totally nonverbal and struggles with comprehension. She is still in her crib and sleeps great! She is pretty tall for her age though and at some point, maybe in the near future, she will be too big for her crib. I have NO clue how we would even attempt to put her in a toddler bed. I just don’t know how she would understand to stay put or understand the process (at this point she doesn’t even respond to her name). Do you have any advice for special needs parents on how & when to make this transition happen at least somewhat smoothly?

    • Does she have sensory issues too? I only ask because that’s often in the mix. Lots of parents with autistic or sensory kids have recommended lycra sheets for big kid beds. They’re stretchy, almost like a big kid swaddle. She could probably get out of this but it might deter her doing so. And people tell me their toddlers respond really well to the feeling of being contained in stretchy/huggie sheets.

      That may help?

      • She does have sensory issues! I will look into these sheets. Thank you for your reply!!

        • They do sell special needs cribs that are the size of regular single beds. There are several different models. They are expensive but can be covered by medical insurance if your doctor writes a prescription. You just need to make the case that it is medically necessary for safety etc. Here’s just one website that sells beds but there are several. http://www.specialneedsbeds.com/

  31. For us, the right age was 2.5. Our toddler never attempted escapes so we kept him in a crib as long as possible. We had our 2nd baby a couple months before he turned 2.5. Baby slept in a pack n play with the raised bassinet insert. We kept him in there as long as possible til the weight limit. Which was quick because he’s huge. When he was about 3m old and toddler was 2.5, we bought a twin mattress to put on the FLOOR (same spot as crib). I put a doorknob cover on the inside of his room. He wandered around the first night but went to bed eventually and had no problems transitioning. No night waking and no door banging. It’s like he knew exactly what to do. So yes it is possible to have a seamless transition πŸ™‚ Couldn’t hurt to try, and you can always go back to the crib if it’s super stressful. But I tell people if the toddler is not escaping all the time just keep them in the crib! I’m sure other commenters suggested this as well but instead of 2 cribs (which seems unreasonable space wise and not cost effective since the time you will need TWO whole cribs is short), use a bassinet, rock n play sleeper, pack n play. Babies don’t need big cribs really until like 3 or 4 months in, when they start rolling over, or have outgrown a weight limit. At least that buys you some time. We also read a Big Boy Bed Elmo book to our son over and over. Really o was astonished at how incredibly easy it was to move him to a floor mattress! Maybe not at 2 yrs on the dot, but 2.5 was perfect.

  32. what if my 26 month old wasn’t sleep well in the crib. And waking up crying all the times from naps and mornings? We switched to toddler bed and he’s naps are horrible and still wakes up screaming !!

    • Sorry to hear that Cg,

      Well sadly this isn’t a problem that’s going to be fixed with a crib. Although I bet you wish it was πŸ™‚ 2 year old sleep issues are pretty similar to baby issues: needing a schedule, falling asleep on their own, consistency. I’m sorry you’re having a horrible go of it but there it is. Not sure why he’s waking up screaming but overtired or not falling asleep independently could definitely be the root cause.

      Good luck!

  33. Oh the bedtime woes! I first came on your site when my son was 2 weeks old. Since then, I’ve been an absolute sleep Nazi, and he slept like a champ. He did so well in his crib, until he started climbing out right at 18 months. So, we lowered the crib mattress all the way to the floor which gave us another 6 months. Right around his 2nd birthday, he started pushing the crib and crawling under the rails. We pushed some furniture against the crib and that bought us another month. Then he got determined enough where he started climbing out over top of the crib even with the mattress on the floor. And so began our long transition to big boy bed 2 months before baby 2 came along. I wish I had tried a sleep sack! 5 months later, we might be finally coming out the other side! He’s no longer waking in the middle of the night to come into bed with us, which happened 5/6 times. We were consistent and put him back in bed every time. The whole going to bed thing has gotten us. We’ve tried spankings, treats, no t.v., etc. It makes since what you say about their self control and impulse control. We tried the whole “Crib is your room”, but he doesn’t want to stay in his room alone. He can climb over baby gates and unlock the doors!! Honestly, I don’t really want him free ranging in his room because I’m afraid he’d be up until midnight. We’re finally down to an extensive bedtime routine (1.5 hours!!!) including every possible thing he could ever request once he’s in bed (water, snack, rocking, stories & stories). He gets to add a sticker to his sticker chart if he stays in bed. After 4 stickers, he gets a special prize. He’ll be 3 in June, and I just keep hoping it’ll continue to be better and consistent. The worst part is not knowing every night how long it’s going to take before he’s asleep in bed!! Thank God my daughter is a sleeping champ. 3 months old–last night slept 6:30 pm-6am (in the swing of course!)

  34. My husband and I actually did this with great success (got pregnant with #2 while #1 was 2 and sleeping in a crib.. then ousted him months before my due date).

    He was a little resistant to the idea but not entirely. We bought him a SUPER COOL bed (from, you guessed it, Ikea–the Kura one) and we did an Ikea hack on it. Painted the wood blue, covered the panels in rainbow fabric.. redid his whole room actually over a weekend he was at his grandparents. He came home to a super cool rainbow room!

    We left the crib up & he continued to sleep there.. but we would just talk about his cool big boy bed a lot and have fun there, read books there. He started by having naps there, we’d read 2-3 stories all “cozy” with him in his bed. Then we added nights too. At some point we simply stopped letting him go in his crib (I think it was about the time he started being able to— very dangerously— escape from his crib). He’s 3 now sleeps in his bed fine… though baby girl hasn’t joined him in his room yet…

  35. Any advice? I’m only 8 weeks pregnant but trying to be smart and plan ahead. Baby is due in November and kid #1 – a boy- is currently 2. He will be 3 years and 3 months when baby arrives. Thus far our son is still on a paci for sleep, still in diapers, and still in a crib. He sleeps well and naps well minus some newfound drama and stall tactics at bedtime. But we’re getting thru that. Anyway I’m a little concerned about expecting my son to drop paci, move beds, and be potty trained all around his 3rd bday… especially knowing that kids tend to regress with baby’s arrival. So should i do nothing and work on all that later? Or start with paci? It does seem silly to buy a 2nd crib when the oldest is 3…

    • Well the paci isn’t a problem until it is. Technically at this age the pressing need to get rid of the paci would be pallet formation which seems to become a “real” issue around 4. So you have some time to worry about that AND as he gets older you’ve got a lot of options (maybe mailing the pacis to the babies?).

      Same goes for diapers – it’s not fun to have 2 in diapers but it’s not a crisis. Many reader adore the book/blog Oh Crap so that might be worth checking out prior to November.

      As for the crib, he’ll be over 3 years when baby arrives so you could consider transitioning him. If you want to I would consider making that happen PRIOR to giving birth so there is no feelings of “they’re giving MY bed to the baby”. If he moves into a big kid bed in say August/Sept. it shouldn’t be an issue.

      So I guess what I’m saying is I think you’re going to be OK and the crib, paci, diaper issues probably won’t be the problem that you fear πŸ˜‰

  36. Helppppp!!!!!! I’ve read this like 1037292 times because every time I post on one of the groups asking for crib to toddler bed translations everyone points me back to this article. Which I’ve read. Over and over. Mainly because I like to soak up anything you wrote! πŸ˜‰ We are needing to transition because my 2.5 year old is literally doing flips in and out of the crib and he’s going to break his dang neck. And I’m not pregnant, there no baby on the way, and I’ll buy an extra crib just to prove this into an issue! haha but seriously- am I missing a post on how to do it when it is true time?!

  37. I would have loved to keep my 22 month old daughter in her crib but she has started escaping and we are expecting baby number 2 in two months. She is also going through a major sleep regression and giving us 2-3 hour long epic bedtime battles. Any advice on where we go from here? Would rather not transition her now but can’t keep her in her crib.

    • Have you tried taking the bottom off the crib and putting the mattress directly on the floor (still inside the crib) ? This bought us a few inches, although I am expecting her to figure it out any day : /

  38. My son will be 3 in December and has recently figured out how to climb out of his crib. He’s going through a crazy sleep regression phase. I’m totally on board for keeping him in the crib till after age 3 but am worried he’s gonna hurt himself climbing out of the crib. I’m due with baby #2 in Dec and am terrified as to how much worse the sleep regression will be once the baby arrives.

  39. Hi Alexis!

    How do parents deal with keeping kiddos in a crib while potty training? She’s ready for potty training but we would like to keep her in the crib for as long as possible (she is 2 years 2 months). We plan to do diapers for nap and night for a while. Is it still successful to have her call out for us to get out or will that be awful?

  40. We opted not to get a second crib, less for financial and more for space reasons. We live in a small 2 bedroom apartment and are going to be moving to a different state in just a few months, so a second crib just wasn’t practical. Our daughter was 29 months when our son was born at the end of September and still sleeping happily in her mini crib. Unfortunately she was also outgrowing it, so we needed to decide whether to purchase a toddler bed our a crib (I’d have loved a twin bed but her room is too small). At 30 months we took away her paci (very glad we did that step before making the bed switch) and then a couple of weeks later we moved her from her mini crib into a toddler bed. We built it up for about a week before making the switch, which had worked really well for us with the paci, and we let her pick put her bedding set. She’s been in it about 3 weeks now and things are going well. She does wake up some, but not dramatically more than when she was in the crib. She blew two naps the first week, but now we’ve been back to 2 hour naps. She gets a glow in the dark star to add to her ceiling if she goes to sleep without calling us back and sleeps all night. We do have a lock on her door so she can’t explore the rest of the house at night.

    I think it helped a lot that we had a very established bedtime routine (though of course she does sometimes attempt to stall) and that we’d been using a toddler alarm clock for several months before the switch. There’s still plenty of time for some regression to occur, since we haven’t quite reached the 3-6 month window with the new baby yet, but I’ve honestly been shocked how well it’s gone.

    We did decide that new brother, no more paci, and toddler bed was enough transitioning for one season though, and have pushed off potty training for a bit.

  41. I’m pretty proud to say I haven’t needed to spend much time on your blog in almost 2 years, after following your sleep advice, my son was a master sleeper. Fast forward to today, he’s a 2.5 YO who has suddenly decided he needs our attention pretty much all night long. He doesn’t get out of bed, rather he lays in bed and cries for us at regular intervals through the night. He doesn’t seem to realize he can get out of his toddler bed before we come into the room, which is fine by us. I’m pregnant and so GD tired I’m having a hard time staying awake at work. I would love your advice for a game plan to address his nightwakings. I’ve tried the obvious stuff like night lights, no lights, longer bedtime routine, not responding to his wakeups, and of course we never got rid of the white noise. I’m worried he’s not getting enough sunlight during the day due to our PacNW gray winter, but that’s got to be true for kids everywhere. Help!

  42. It’s funny I read this post when I was pregnant with baby number 2 and immediately went out and bought an Ikea crib in preparation… since my first would be 21 months old when the baby came round. now the new baby is 3.5 months old and here I am struggling with sleep issues with my two year old. He’s been the best sleeper his whole life and this week, the total opposite. He’s not resentful of the baby during the day… not trying to climb out of his crib just refusing and screaming as loud as he can as you put him down for nap or bed.

    So what do I do? I go to my favorite website on sleep issues… this one …and see if I can figure out the problem and lo and behold I came across the same page I found 6 months ago. once again it felt like it was written just for me.

    My husband and I just bought all the stuff for a big kid bed and we’re planning on putting the two year old in his big kid bed in a few days.

    But after reading this I’m doubting our plan. what do you recommend when we’ve already gone down the rabbit hole and allowed the two year old to sleep with Mommy the last few nights… how do we correct that?

    At bedtime our normally good sleeper is now screaming and wailing for over an hour straight before we give up and just bring him into bed with us or let him fall asleep on us and put him in the crib? He only started refusing to nap and fighting bedtime this last week.

    Any help appreciated. we really talked ourselves into doing the big kid bed and making it exciting for him but maybe I’m just hoping for too much

  43. Hi Alexis.
    You’re blog helped me so much with my first born. She is now 26 months and still a good sleeper. But lately she has taken up to 2 hours to fall asleep for naps or bedtime. She than naps for 2 hours and I feel bad that she’s been in her crib for 4 hours but glad that she napped. First question, how much time should elapse between waking from nap and bedtime? Second question, in an effort to keep consistent nap times, should I get her up after 2 hours even if she hasn’t fallen asleep but likely would if I left her in there? She wakes around 7:30/8 for the day, nap time is at 1pm and we put her in her crib at 8pm for bedtime. We also just had our second baby, so could this be the result of her world changing? She otherwise adores him and doesn’t show any jealousy towards the new baby. Thanks!

  44. Thank you so much for the article! It helped me win the argument with my husband who thought we needed to transition our 21 mo old daughter and I’m definitely a “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” person. I just read him one paragraph and he’s convinced.

    2nd issue we are having though is regarding a room transition. Maybe this isn’t a big deal, I’m not sure? Our daughter will be 24 months when the new baby comes. She is going to sleep well in the crib at night and with naps though has always had a few night wakings a night, generally she’s been able to get a quick comfort from one of us and go back to sleep easily. Some antics/stall tactics seem to be starting which I’m a little nervous about (will look for more of your articles about dealing with that!), but she’s also a light sleeper in our old creaky house. For this reason I feel like we should move her to the upstairs room, instead of across from our room where the baby will be sleeping and crying at night. Since she does still wake at night this will be more inconvenient for us, but I want to do it at least a couple months before the baby comes if we’re going to. We have the big kid bed that I was maybe going to put in there WITH her crib as a spot to hang out and read on that she might slowly get used to. I think she’ll be interested to try sleeping on it but am guessing her ADD self will be up 2 minutes later like when she lays down in our bed.

    So questions are:
    -Should we move her to the “big girl” room and if so, when? Or just avoid all changes until brother needs the nursery at 6 months.
    -Is it a good idea to have the toddler bed in there, ok to associate reading and playing with it?
    -Any tips to help with the New Baby Bed Bounce, specifically the 2am demands that are already increasing now anyway?

    Thanks again!! I just found this website and love reading the articles and comments!

  45. I want to get new black rims for my car and I want to know how much it would cost to just paint them instead. I know that it would be less expensive but by how much because I don’t know if all the work is worth it if I’ll just save a few dollars

  46. My 22 month old with NOT stay in his crib. We’ve gotten to the point of it being dangerous and ridiculous for us to keep replacing him. Tonight is the first night in a toddler bed despite our efforts of lowering the mattress to the floor and turning the high side out, he’s an escape artist!

    That being said, with #2 arriving in 5 months how can I set firm and healthy boundaries? We’ve gotten a lock on the door so he’s unable to get out. I’m closely watching him on the monitor and the room is 100% baby proofed. Thanks for your help!

  47. Hi, I have 2 daughters, one just turned 5 and one is about to turn 4 in 2 weeks – they both still sleep in their baby cribs! the crib is from Ikea (so its not huge) but we did cut couple of the bars over a year ago to make a “door” so that they can enter and get out of the beds like big girl beds.
    Now we are thinking it has to be time to get new toddler beds that are longer to give them more leg room. FYI the 5 year is now 100cm and the 4 year old is 96cm. They have not complained at all about it and if it isnt for my husband insisting on upgrading their beds, i will push longer to see how long it can last lol – yes we def got our money’s worth!:)

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