Finding the Confidence to Make Change EP 3

June 1, 2016 |  by  |  Podcast
parenting change is HARD

I often do sleep consultations with families who are literally not sleeping. Like at all. Nobody is sleeping and everybody is crying. And yet when I suggest a change of strategy, that they need to do something different from what they’ve been doing, they balk.

“Oh no, we can’t do that.What if things get worse.”

Because no matter how bad things are, we’re terrified of making things worse.

So I launch into the intellectual argument, “There is no worse, you’re living worse.” Which I, as a non-postpartum impartial person who sleeps soundly, can see clearly. But for the people who are in it, making change is terrifying.

This isn’t specific to sleep, it applies to starting daycare, traveling with babies, really anything that causes a deviation from the fragile little groove we create as new parents.

And it can be terrifying.

And fear of change locks us into patterns, often exceedingly unpleasant patterns, for ages.

However when you’re a parent, change is both necessary and inevitable. And as the Borg says, resistance is futile.

Finding the Confidence to Make Change

This podcast will cover:

  • Common changes and decisions we’ve faced or are going to face as parents.
  • How to know when it’s time to make a change.
  • Strategies to find the confidence to move through those changes.

Let us know what you think and leave us a comment below! If you have a specific question or issue you would like us to tackle in a future podcast episode, feel free to drop it in a comment or email us at

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Cheers and tally ho!


  1. This is super amazing. Wonderful. So glad you are doing a podcast! Thank you!

  2. Hi Alexis,

    My husband and I are big fans of all your stuff—> our kids SLEEP because of you. Is anything better than that?! My freshly turned 2 yr old is extremely curious about potty training, takes off her diaper often, frequently asks to go potty (but has never successful gone in the toilet). Do you have any resources you LOVE for this topic. Truthfully I am hoping to postpone this a little longer but I need help and info. With a three month old baby I’m not sure I’m up to starting and I know that once I do, I’ll probably need to commit. Help!

    • I don’t have any that I LOVE love. I have mixed feelings about potty training and it’s a topic I haven’t had the time to really delve into and thus don’t consider myself an expert. Personally we subscribed to the theory that “potty training should take a day, if it takes MORE than a day, you’ve picked the wrong day.”

      There is a big push to get kids out of diapers early and some say it’s totally awesome and natural, and others say it’s developmentally inappropriate and can lead to constipation and other issues. Not sure who is right frankly.

      The book Oh Crap Potty Training is definitely on the side of “start early” and may other readers have found it helpful!

  3. Diaper Free Before 3! It’s a great, easy read by a mama/pediatrician. Also, I’d be careful about setting up unrealistic expectations about it taking more than a day- even the most stoked, ready kiddo is going to have a few wet weeks while they transition. Doing it earlier while your child is psyched and eager to please is a LOT easier than when they’re three and asserting their independence by peeing on the floor.

  4. I so needed this podcast today!! I finally got my, now 11 month old, to fall asleep on his own. He’s been doing it for 3 weeks. He now wakes only 1 or 2 times a night. I don’t feed him before 11 but I do give him one last feed before heading into nighttime. I want to eliminate the late night and middle of the night feedings because at 31lbs and 11 months old, I think he needs to do it. :). So, I am now going to start night weaning. I’I have to admit, I’m scared but he and I definitely need to do this. I am ready to make the change because I want to be able to stay out at night past 9:30. So, my question is which feed should I start weaning from first? The 11 pm one or the 3 am one? Or can I do both at the same time? Thanks for your time!

    • I think it’s neither heads nor tails which one you start with and I’d pick the one that you’d most like to give up first! 🙂

  5. Confrontation (aka bullying) is an advanced counseling skill, so ya’ll are totally legit 🙂

  6. Bailey wheelock

    Thank you for posting the player in the article. Me and iTunes are not friends so I thought I would have to miss out on these!

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