Numerous sleep books as well as celebrity parenting gurus (Jessica Alba – who knew?) propose that your baby can and should be sleeping 12 hours at night. Which suggests if your baby isn’t sleeping 12 hours at night, you’re doing it wrong. Or possibly your baby is broken. Maybe both?
This leads to a regular stream of emails from people who are frustrated by their inability to conquer the mystical mountain of the 12 hour night. They include a myriad of details including their 40 minute pre-bed soothing wind down routine, use of white noise, swaddling, put baby down awake, militant adherence to routine, schedules, block out blinds, positive sleep associations, and yet despite all their great work, they can’t get their baby to sleep longer than 11 hours a night.
And so I share with them my magical technique to master the art of the 12 hour night. But more on that later…
How Much Night Sleep Does Your Child Need?
Where did the goal of “12 hours” come from? Presumably these books are based on scads of credible science suggesting that 12 hours is a medically mandated and realistically achievable goal.
Nope.
The truth is “how much sleep” is still a subject of great debate.
The Sleep in America Poll says kids are sleeping ~10 hours at night by the their first birthday. It also says that over 1/3 of kids aren’t getting enough sleep. Ferber also suggests kids need ~10 hours by their first birthday. Wiessbluth says 1 year old babies should be sleeping between 10-13 hours of sleep at night, with the average falling around 11.5 hours. The amount of sleep kids get varies widely by country (New Zealand wins – go Kiwis!). Or there is the Pediatrics Study that tells us that for the past 200 years, pediatric sleep experts have failed to agree on how much sleep our kids need but that regardless of what amount is suggested, kids get on average, 37 minutes less sleep than the experts recommended number.
So don’t feel bad. You’re failing just like your great-great-great grandmother failed. So we’re all multi-generational sleep parenting failures. Woo hoo!
Successful Night Sleep Duration
So if the experts, authors, and pediatric sleep researches can’t agree on a number, how are you supposed to know what to do?
When I started Troublesome Tots, I was baby sleep “book smart” – I read a lot and wrote about it. Three years and many millions of babies later, I learn more from my readers than I do from the books. Plus readers stories are way more fun than sleep books. And while this doesn’t qualify as “statistical research” it’s a pretty solid base to draw conclusions from.
Thus I’ve concluded that 11 hours of night sleep is a great goal. Some lucky parents will have babies who sleep 12 or even 13 hours at night (hopefully these parents routinely buy lottery tickets as clearly the fates are with them). Some kiddos will resolutely sleep 10 hours at night, and not a minute more, even if their parents are doing ALL the right things. But ~11 hours is the gold standard. Typically this is, 7:30 PM – 6:30 AM. Or somewhere thereabouts.
The Magic Answer to the 12 Hour Night
Thus my magic answer is to accept that the 12 hour night may not be attainable for you. Not because of any flaw in you, your sleep plan, or your baby. If your baby is a newborn all bets are off because they’re a newborn. If your baby is over ~3-4 months in age and is sleeping somewhere in the ballpark of 11 hours of night, you’re doing great. If you “dream of a night 11 hours long” as an unachievable fantasy akin to dating Tom Hiddleston then probably your baby isn’t getting quite enough sleep. What to do about it really depends on how old they are. Generally the answer falls near the trifecta of have an early bedtime, put baby down awake, and hope for the best.
But you’ll get there. I have faith in you.
Does anybody else have any thoughts about how long their baby sleeps at night? Any lucky 13-hour babies out there? Does Jessica Alba care to weigh in?
I would love to get some advice! I am a FTM and my 6 month old baby is exclusively breastfed. He almost died at birth so I wonder if his need to be comforted by me is heightened? Anyway, he has never been a ‘good’ sleeper unless he is held or nursed to sleep. We started sleep training with a professional at 4 months. We created a very strict schedule for him and we have seen a little improvement from waking up every 2 hours to waking up twice a night. He wakes up screaming bloody murder with tears streaming down his face. I’m not even exaggerating, this is every time he wakes up at night. If I don’t go in a comfort him or nurse him right away it can take an hour to get him to calm down. I’ve spent thousands of dollars on sleep training and still my baby cannot sleep through the night. I am trying anything and everything in my power to help him sleep longer at night but nothing is working. I don’t know what to do, I just want him to get the rest he needs. Please help me out!
I’m so sorry that it has been a rough time of sleep for you and your little one! I remember that feeling of sleep deprivation from when my first was like that. My second is 8 months and got very sick at 2 weeks. After that he would no longer sleep well on his own and woke up every hour. Like you I spent money for help at 4 months. The rigorous schedule was impossible to follow (especially with big brother interrupting) but I did my best and didn’t see improvement. Anyhow, after I gave up on the crazy schedule, I made a safe co sleeping bed with a mattress on our floor and have never looked back. He sleeps great! Maybe try this if you are still having a hard time?
Hi Jasmine,
I am so sorry you are having a hard time. I have a 7 month old Daughter. She usually sleeps 10 hours at night but sometimes wakes up at 2:30am to eat. I have included her routine and I hope it helps.
2:30am- bottle
6:30am- wake up
7:00am- Breakfast
9am- bottle
Nap: 9:30am(sleeps 1.5hrs to 2hours)
11:30- Lunch
12:30pm-
2pm- Nap(2 hours)
4pm- snack
6pm- Dinner
7pm- Bath
Massage, pjs, sleepsack
Read book(change book every week)
Bottle and 1 nursery song
Bedtime: 8pm
Make sure you put baby down drowsy. Also, when baby wakes up a couple times during the night try patting him/her instead and picking up or feeding. You can try a stuff animal as some babies find comfort in them instead of a pacifier. Also, I have a friend who had troubles with her baby and she purchased a sleep sack called Zen sack and by the third night her baby sleep 7 hours straight!
I agree with all of this but not the stuffed animal
Absolutely nothing should be in the crib with your baby. It is a SIDs risk. All babies are different too so something like that should never be suggested. My 5 month old will take a blanket or stuffed animal and shove it in his face. If I wasn’t right there he would suffocate himself to death. Giving a baby anything other than a paci goes against the aap standards for safe sleep. Not worth the risk to your precious baby.
Hi Yasmin, my daughter who is nearly 4 used to wake crying/screaming after every sleep or nap. We worried quite a lot about it but she grew out of it eventually (I think she was over two when she did), she needed the words to express that she was alone and scared. Good news is it didn’t stop her sleeping through the night and she wasn’t a good sleeper at all. It took a night of controlled crying which was horrendous but from then on she slept much better. P.S getting her on a routine for her naps was next to impossible and her nightly bath just seemed to excite her more, so don’t expect your baby to necessarily conform to what the experts say they should do. My second child is completely different and all the advice works much better with her. I firmly believe there’s a lot of luck to how well a baby sleeps.
I know post is old now but for any one reading now please know that at only 6 months old, waking twice a night is biologically normal and highly protective against SIDS. Always go to baby that is scream feed and calm and they will sleep with less wake ups eventually being secure in the knowledge that is they need you you will come.
may he be intolerent to something in your diet? i breast feed my baby and find that certain thing dont agree with her e.g. spicy food, pickles, sweetcorn, soya.
goodluck i hope everything gets better for u boyj
Yes
Hi, I’m sorry I have a few things some people told me mixed with my own ideas , maybe it can help you never know. First I’m a music lover , have my own specific music I get into where I close my eyes and really feel and sing it. My LO loves to feel the vibration of me singing every single hymn of my favorite slower tunes, lol foo fighters slowed acoustic versions are my fav! Then i plug in Vick’s vapor plug ins that puts out a soothing smell in the room I also have a lamp that projects stars on the ceiling . Deep blue is great . Of course we all have noise machines too I like a simple white noise in the background. So all these elements together work well . And if we’re having a really tough night and he really can’t get to sleep honestly the best invention ever is the baby shusher . This is an amazing little sound maker . Try it all to gather song to your LO , get into it and connect it really works like cheek to cheek and sing! Good luck hope it gets better for you!
My baby is 4.5 months and sleeps 12 hours at night without a feed. He is exclusively breastfed. He almost died at birth and was in the NICU for 3 weeks. There they are on a strict routine; every 3 hours they get fed, nappy gets changed etc and in between they sleep. I sort of continued with that schedule when he came home and he gradually started sleeping longer and longer. The last feeding of the day is at 18h. In the beginning I would feed him at 22h again, but it gradually became later and later until he slept until 3am for a few weeks. After that he gradually slept longer until now where he sleeps from 7pm to 7 am. He might wake up once or twice a night, but falls right back to sleep within 5 minutes. I sometimes don’t even go to his room anymore cause he falls asleep himself. So my rule is to stick to a consistent day nap and feeding routine (he sleeps about 3 to 3,5 hours in the day), prioritise the bed time routine and if he wakes up at night I first give it a minute or two (unless he is screaming), then first check if he’s too hot or cold, is his nappy okay, etc. IF he still cries after 3 times of putting the dummy back in then I feed him. But this doesn’t happen anymore; he falls asleep immediately after I put the dummy in (he is able to put it in himself now). He wakes up happy and is gaining weight well. He feeds every 2,5 hours in the day with one short nap mid morning, 2 hours over lunch and one short nap in the afternoon. I can’t stretch him for longer than 2.5 hours awake time in the day.
I’m a first time mom so also don’t really know what I’m doing. But I read a lot and pray a lot. I’m a christian and believe prayer is vital to my son’s well-being.
Also I use a cloth nappy in the night woth extra layers in the nappy and this lasts him the whole night so he doesn’t really wake up in the night because of a dirty nappy.
Hey, how much does your LO feed for each bottle or do you breast feed?
Do you have advice for getting a baby to nap? I put mine down consistently 2 hrs after he wakes- then he naps for 45 min max. I’ve tried letting him cry for about 10 min but he looks wide awake! He is 3.5 months old. Then he takes one more 45 min nap and MAYBE a third nap but not usually. Then, of course, he is dead tired at 6pm (and often cranky). He sleeps about 12 hrs at night waking up once maybe twice. We just want to work on the naps so he’s not so cranky at the afternoon and refreshed! He’s had good naps maybe once or twice and he was such a joy! Thank you in advance everyone!
Hi! 2 hours might be a little too long for a 3.5 month old. Can you try about 1.5 hours?
Also, it’s very common for young babies to only take short naps. As they get older (6 months and up) they learn to consolidate a little more and can nap longer. So it may be a wait and see game. Good luck!
My son is six months old and only did catnaps like that for the longest time, then I started doing a slightly different nap routine than bedtime, a bit more soothing..extra snuggles and I give him more time to fall asleep..it seems to help, if he wakes up cranky after only 45 min (sometimes he’s content with just that!) I cheer him up and then leave the room, he falls back asleep if he needs to. Maybe try that? I think they have a hard time falling back asleep after one sleep cycle when it’s daylight and there’s so much to see and do, so they need a little extra help!
My little girl is 16weeks and sleeping anywhere between 10hrs and 13hrs a night without waking to be feed. She is exclusively breastfeed. At 8weeks she started doing 7hrs straight then each week got longer and longer. At 14weeks she woke every 45mins and would need help resettling but back went to her big sleeps again after 5 nights. I’m pretty causal with rountines. Basically when she is tired I offer her the boob and she feeds or doesn’t then goes to sleep. During the day she usually does a 2 hr sleep after big night time then it’s just a couple of 45min naps. Depending on when she last woke up is to when she goes for the night. She has a play, bath then we go into bedroom and feed sometimes she is tired and wants to sleep other times we play and read books then when I see she is tired I put her in swaddle and I do have to hold her and sing ‘goodnight sleeptight’ over and over for a couple of minutes then I pop her down and she wakes up 45mins later for a quick cuddle and sometimes top up then out to it until the morning. She even wakes up happy and doesn’t have to feed straight away. The odd night she might wake at around 2am and need a feed, I just do a feed, nappy change, other boob, back in swaddle and she will go to sleep within 5mins by herself. After giving birth I decided to change my diet and give her the best chance of a good immune system and healthy body so I eat 70% organically (it’s too hard to do 100%) and I cut out sugar and coffee from my diet. – not sure if this has helped her with sleeping or not but I’m too scared to go back to all my sweet treats incase it’s the secret!
I have 11 month old twins. They still wake up 2-4 times a night. I have a memory foam mattress topper on the floor that I will sleep with them on and they sleep better with me next to them but will still wake up at least once or twice. They aren’t waking up hungry wanting bottles anymore so they’re just waking up for comfort or something. I’m so sleep deprived its affecting my health (I have cystic fibrosis). I had them sleeping 12-13 hours when they were 3-4 1/2 but then they started teething and haven’t slept through the night since. I have tried letting them cry but it just gets them more worked up and harder to get them to calm down and go back to sleep. Not really sure what to do anymore. Need help
Katy, what is their bedtime routine/how are they falling asleep? That is the key – if the environment is changing (i.e., you lay with them at bedtime or they get drowsy with a bottle a few minutes before falling asleep) they will wake up expecting that same situation to be happening middle of the night.
Our 28 month old sleeps maybe 8 hours at night and we are lucky if that’s straight through. Lately she has gotten gone down anywhere between 9-10 (we try to start unwinding at 8) and is up anywhere from 12-2 most nights wanting to play sometimes and is up for 1-3 hours. We have tried to keep the same routine, bath around 7-730 and lay down to read books around 8-815 to try to get her to sleep. She naps from 12-1 to 130-2 we try not to let her get more than hour and a half and never past 230. This has gone on now for about s month of her waking at night and wanting to walk through the house. Any help would be appreciated
Hey… definately try an earlier bedtime! That works wonders!
Hello.
My baby who has just reached 8 months has trouble going to sleep. Her father comes home by midnight and she started to stay awake till then so that he will come pick her up. She stays awake for an hour more.
Since her sleep is already disturbed entire night she screams and wakes up every few hours. She was a wonderful sleeper from 2 months, we did have have some off nights but now it’s been over 2 weeks I am not well and losing my mind!
And she only takes 1 nap for 4 hours if disturbed in between she takes another nap to cover this.
And requires me to be with her all the time she is sleeping
My 6 month old will not sleep longer than 9.5 hours straight at night. He has a strict bedtime routine and is in bed by 7:30 pm. He knows how to fall asleep on his own as well. We have just started introducing solids into his diet
I started bed time routine with my 2 month old. She is doing great… but, when she sleeps at 730 she doesnt stay asleep and only sleeps for an hour as if it is a nap. Then I feed her again at 10ish when we go to bed and she sleeps to 530 or 6pm. Question: what do I do when she wakes after 730? We currently keep thi gs low and quiet and keep her with us as we do out evening routine. Wondering if this is ruining the bed time routine?
Hi, I’m not an expert but I’ve read Alexis’s book and a lot of her posts, and I think you’re doing just what you should do. At two months, the most important thing is to get sleep however it happens. She’s not going to sleep for long stretches for another month or two.
I would love to get your thoughts on our situation. Over the 2 months, our baby has either been sick or been traveling. The sleep routine is destroyed. On top of that, he is now finally starting to get his molars, and he has a canker sore after biting his lip. If that’s all not enough, he’s 18-months old and the pediatrician thinks he’s developmentally starting the terrible twos. For the last few weeks, we just CANNOT get him to sleep beyond 8 hours at night. Because of his teething and canker sore, he almost always needs to be breastfed to go back down.
We put him to bed at 7:30, he wakes up a few times a night, we spend 10 minutes to an hour each time trying to put him back to sleep, and then sometime between 4:30 and 6:30 he’s awake for the day. We’ve started giving him Ibuprofen at night as recommended by the Pediatrician but so far it hasn’t helped much, and he always still wakes up after about 7-8 hours of sleep. Naps are atrocious, he’ll often cry for 2 hours straight while we try for a morning nap, and an afternoon nap he may only get 45 minutes of sleep.
We’ve got a fairly established bedtime routine, and he does go to bed reasonably well (by comparison, ugh) but our problem is the waking up several times and not sleeping long duration. We want to re-train him on self soothing but he’s got so much going on at the moment.
Our poor little guy seems to be racking up a sleep deficit. He seems very obviously tired with his behavior but we can’t get him to sleep more. Is there any way to correct this awful pattern that’s developed recently?
We’re at the end of our tether – our gorgeous little girl is 4 months old. She has quite bad reflux but it was particularly bad as a newborn and we’d have to keep her upright for an hour after feeds (she’s bottle fed) which inevitably meant that she’d fall asleep on us and we’d then transfer her to the crib. She eventually managed to sleep 6 hours straight through until the sleep regression hit just over a month ago. Now she will only sleep on us, and will manage an hour – max – in the crib a night. We don’t like to co sleep so my husband and I split the night and get only 4 hours sleep max a night. So she’ll fall asleep on us and when we try to transfer her she screams bloody murder. None of the awake but drowsy, comfort to sleep seems to be working and she tends to throw up if she’s awake and flat for too long. She’s on medication for her reflux and her bed is propped slightly. Do you have an ideas at all how we begin to tackle this? We’re beyond exhausted!
My boy has just turned 12 months, has rarely slept more than 10 hours a night. He has lately been sleeping less than 10 hours a night and waking between 4.30 and 5am with a morning poo! I’ve tried to give him milk and settle back to sleep but by 6.30 I give up. Infuriating because he is exhausted by breakfast time.
He naps twice a day for 2.5-3 hours total.
The early starts are taking their toll and we had this from 8-10 months I thought we had finally turned a corner a few weeks ago but unfortunately not! Any advice?
Hi Amy,
My fist daughter would wake up with poppy diapers sometimes. She also got it the habit of waking up at 5 every morning when she was around 12 m. This is what I did when she woke up with a poopy diaper. I would not turn on the light, I would change her with a deem light and not talk to her at all. Giving the cue that it was still night. After I changed her, I would put her back in her crib, if she cried I would soothe her by caressing her head, and or back, and whispered night night., and leave the room. Sometimes she would cry, so I would wait a few minutes, go back in the dark room, caress her head or back, and leave again. If she was crying I would wait a little longer to go back each time. Eventually the baby knew that waking with a poopy diaper was not time to wake up but a part of the night. When she started waking up at 5 AM I would not go get her if she was just talking and she would eventually go back to sleep. I would only go get her if she was crying, and feed her and say nite. If she continued to be awake I would take her out and just let her play. They eventually sleep longer as they get older and you just have to get through this. . Good luck! It can be so frustrating to have interrupted sleep.
My 7 month old baby girl sleeps between 12 and 13 hours a night. I cannot take credit for this, she kind of just did it on her own. I feel that maybe because she is my 5th baby God knew, that in my personal case, I jut needed a baby like her to survive. She takes shorter naps during the day maybe an hour or two and then around 5 and 6 PM she starts looking tired and just sleeps until 6 or 7 AM. The first time she slept 12 hrs was around 2 or 3 months old. I thought something was wrong and was scared, but then I realized she just needed that sleep. I don’t know that I have the answers to how to get your babies to sleep that long. But I can share what I do. When my babies are new borns I try to feed them every two to three hours. I do supplement, I have breast fed and bottle fed all my babies until they are 10 to 12 months old. I start on baby rice at 4 m, however most of my babies have not liked rice cereal, so I move to oatmeal cereal pretty quick. At 6 m I start on foods and I mostly just make my babies foods on my blender. They have all loved this. I give them, sweet potatoes, squash, spinach, eggs, chicken, salmon, chick peas, oranges, apples, pears,, mandarine oranges, bananas, beets, carrots, etc. By the time they are 9 m, they are trying lots off different foods. My last baby, has eaten more at an earlier age, I mean that by 7 she has already tried the foods that I mentioned above. I kind of just follow her cues, she just seemed to want to eat this foods and begged to try them. Literary would make desperate sounds and extended her hands to try the food. So I started giving her more varieties off foods So a daily routine would look like this,
6-7:30 baby wakes up
I nurse her as long as she wants which is about 10 min on each side.
Then she plays or we go on a walk and when she looks tired I lay her down for a nap. This is about 1 hr or two after being awake. She sleeps for about 1
Then she wakes up again and I nurse her and then give her some baby food she plays and I feed her some formula and put her down for a nap.for as long as she wants, which is around 1 to two hours. She wakes up and I nurse her, sometimes give her formula if she is still hungry and let her play. This is the same routine when she wakes up. Between 4-6 PM I nurse, baby feed and bottle feed depending on my babies cues, I give her a bath, put soothing lotion nurse some more, song to her and put her in her crib, with the lights off, Say nite, nite as I caress her head and back, I give her a blanket , and leave the room. I do use a sound machine that always has the sound of rain. She sleeps anywhere from 5:30 or 6:30 PM to 5:30 -6:30 PM. It varies. I just let her sleep as long as she wants.
All my babies except one have slept 11 to 12 hours, but I have to say that with my last one I really just followed her cues and she kind of did it on her own. With the other ones especially my first one I had to try to move her bed time slowly from 10 PM To 7 PM. By 3 M she was sleeping through the night. My fourth baby woke up once every night until he was like two years old. But I think it was just a habit because we had been moving a lot and he just wanted comfort. I’m not an expert but this is my experience. I wish all the moms out there best luck. It is hard trying to figure out how to be a mom, routines, sleep, etc. Just do the best you can and realize that this time will pass before you know it. I know sometimes it seems like it will never end, but it will. Enjoy your babies as much as you can and do take time for you. It makes you a better and a happier mom.
I came on here because with sleep training, my dad sleeps
12 or 13 (no feeds) hours a night at 18 weeks. While I know that was the goal, I get paranoid about it being ok. I feel better now. Thank you!
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I don’t know if this will be of help to anyone but this is what I do to get my 4 1/2 month old to sleep roughly 11 1/2 hrs at night.
My son wakes around 6:30-7am and his last feed of the day is 6-7pm.
Backstory. I am exclusively breast feeding and have had issues with blocked milk ducts and stubborn blebs, yeck. My son is teething and his latch is poor at the moment, causing problems properly draining the breast.
Anyway I think the reason why I’ve experienced success is because I nurse to satiation. I nurse for about an hour and then pump afterwards to ensure there isn’t a significant amount left (typically half an ounce) and then immediately feed him the pumped portion. (I don’t think I’d pump if I didn’t have blocked ducts) I am also on a 4 hour schedule, feeding 4 times a day. As well I do put him to bed early and if he cries I only ever go in to pop his binkie back in his mouth (happens maybe once or twice as he’s trying to fall asleep) and never make any noise, eye contact (not that I could, it’s typically too dark) or engage in actual consoling. Sounds harsh but it seems to be working for me, at least for now. Knock on wood.
Oh and I forgot to mention my son has reflux/gas, always has. I used a few text books under his crib to elevate the head and magic! No more issues, at least at night. I know it’s not recommended..but you as a parent have to choose what you feel is right for your baby.
Hi! My 10month old sleeps 9.5 to hours at night and has 2 naps usually takes 2-2.5 hour nap. Should I be worried with his sleep pattern? He seems ok to me. Wakes up smiling all the time.
I mean 9.5-10 hours
Great! He’s taking huge naps and naturally then has a shorter night. This is fine if it works for you. He’s getting a whopping 14 hours of sleep a day – awesome job!
Hi! My 10month old sleeps 9.5 to 10 hours at night and has 2 naps usually takes 2-2.5 hour nap or sometimes shorter. Total sleep in 24hrs is 13-14hours. Should I be worried with his sleep pattern? He seems ok to me. Wakes up smiling all the time.
Hi! My baby girl is 7 months old, but was 6 weeks early, so 5.5 months adjusted age. We’ve been doing the 3 night sleep solution and we’re on night 4. She’s doing great with the naps and goes down like an Angel right at 6pm with no fuss. For the last 2 nights she then sleeps from 6-3/3:30am uninterrupted- 9hours! But then she cries for hours. I can tell she’s hungry and I lay there and debate feeding her the whole time she’s crying. I really want to help her sleep through the night, but I’m not sure if I’m unrealistic to think she can go from 6-6 without eating? Should I give it a few more nights if crying and this will pass and she’ll start sleeping through? I’ve read the dream feed can actually disrupt them and lead to less overall sleep, so have not tried that yet, but should I attempt a dream feed at 9 or 10 before I go to bed and see if we can get the 9 hour stretch later? Crying for 2 hours in the middle of the night isn’t something we can keep enduring.
Hi! I would go ahead and feed her at the 330am wake up- it’s like a snooze feed, and pretty reasonable at her age. Good luck!
Hi! I would go ahead and feed her at the 330am wake up- consider it a snooze feed and it’s reasonable at her age. Good luck!
Hi! I have a 4.5 month old who will sleep for 11 hours straight one night and then fall into a pattern of waking 1-2 times at night. He takes multiple cat naps (30 to 40 minutes) during the day because I can’t get him to sleep longer than that. I’m struggling to figure out why he will have such a good streak and then wake up multiple times per night. He’s breastfed and we put him down drowsy. Thanks!
Hi, my 14 week old son is a pretty good night sleeper, dropping his night feed at 10 weeks and sleeping from around 10/10.30pm to 6am though still some restless periods during that time. During the day he was napping three times, anywhere between 45-90mins and in no obvious pattern. Some of these seem to be lengthening out now whilst at other times he seems cursed by the 45min-only sleep cycle and we’re trying different things to help him go longer. In the last few weeks, his evening fussiness/witching period has all but gone and for the first time, he’s catnapping in the evening, anywhere from 20-60mins between 8 and 9pm. I’m wondering if this is the first signs of him wanting to move to a longer sleep, maybe 9/10 hours? If so, any advice on how to manage this and get this late evening nap joined up with his 10/10.30pm bedtime? Should I keep his 9.45pm bottle in the same place or try to push this earlier? Bit scared to do this because he often wakes up ready to eat your arm at 6am as it is so feel it would wake him up earlier? Similarly nervous about keeping it where it is essentially as a dreamfeed because we got away from that several weeks ago? Any thoughts very much appreciated x
Hi, I’ve got 2 babies, the little one is a boy and a good sleeper, he sleeps around 9:00-10:00pm and wakes up around 6:00-8:00am I’m really happy with him his daytime naps are also good… but I have a HUGE problem with my elder one… I don’t know she just doesn’t sleep. She barely sleeps 4 hours straight even at night if she sleeps at 10:00 pm she wakes up at 3:00 to 4:00am till 6:00 am and again sleeps till 10:00 am then wakes up and sleeps around 5:00 pm to 7:00pm. I try not to let her sleep whenever she wants but it’s just impossible, if she’s not sleepy she just won’t sleep staying awake in her cot for 3 hours but WON’T sleep and if she’s sleepy she’ll even sleep in the corridor… I feel like I’m having a taste of hell everyday it’s so frustrating it’s just driving me crazy I try my best not to put pressure on her but she just won’t cooperate.
When I was pregnant with her in the first few weeks ( I didn’t know I was pregnant) my breast used to hurt really bad so I went to doctor they thought it might be breast cancer they did a few test and gave me medicine but after a month I found out I was pregnant and thus stopped taking those medicine and during the whole pregnancy I had to go under lots of ultrasounds so I’m afraid that all theses complications may have had bad defect on her brain development… I’m so scared don’t wanna go to doc as she’ll once again be exposed to different tests she’s still only 2.
HI,
I have a one year old baby. I put him down at 7 am and he consistently wakes up at 5 am to 5:15 and won’t go back to sleep. At first he was sleeping close to 12 hours until 6:30 am but now 5 am is when he wakes. When he waking at 6:30 am I would put him down for a nap at 9 am and 1:30 am and he would sleep from 40 mins to an hour. Now that he wakes up so early at 5 am ish I put him down at 8:30 am and 1 pm. But no matter how much I try to make small changes so he can go back to sleeping close to 11 hours he wakes up at 5 am. I have even tried to push his bed time a bit later than 7pm, to 7:30 pm or 8 pm, but he still wakes up anywhere from 5 to 5:15pm which means he was getting close to 10 hours or a little bit less. Do you have any suggestions? I have the white noise machine and black out curtains, he was OK but now I am up by 5:30 am every morning! Help!
Hi,
I have a 10 month old (born premature by a month) hated being swaddled, hated being laid down as an infant. Took 3 months before he was ok with being put down. Then he moved to eating eating every 2-3 hours up until he was 7 months old. Then it just turned into waking every 2-4 hours to be put back to sleep. Now he is 10 months old, last heavy meal and bottle is between 6-8pm (He eats when he wants to eat). Won’t fall asleep until 9:30-10 sometimes later. Mornings between 5:30-8am. Naps in the day range from 30 minutes-2 hours twice a day. So far naps have no correlation with any earlier or later sleeping or waking up. It doesn’t matter if he does to be early or late there’s no correlation with him waking early. I’ve tried cry it out, less naps, one more late feed if he’ll eat it and so many more things. He won’t fall asleep on his own he has to be held to sleep, he wakes up every 4-5 hours and has to be put back to sleep. Tried cry it out, he’ll stand up in his crib and cry until my husband or I comes to get him.
I’m thinking at this point it’s just something he has to grow out of which I’m afraid of because I’m pregnant again due in January.
Any tips?
Hi,
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